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Are you ticklish? And what should the response be?
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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 399913" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>No one should have to go through the act of "desensitizing". No means NO! PERIOD. Once you tell someone that if you only desensitize yourself, you are giving the green light to the tickler. Go ahead, tickle if you must, if it bothers someone than THEY can deal with it by making themselves non-ticklish.</p><p> </p><p>There ARE innocent tickling sessions and as Susie stated, you need to trust your instincts. If you feel it is o.k. then don't worry about it. If you are not sure than either talk to the "victim" to see if he/she needs help in stopping it or just put a stop to it.</p><p> </p><p>I like the idea of watching the length of it. Also pay attention to how the "victim" reacts when told he/she will be visiting that person. Is he/she starting to find excuses not to go? Is he/she becoming more withdrawn around that person, making an effort not to sit near, ect?</p><p> </p><p>I would not try to tell the victim to try to desensitize. The victim needs your support to stop it, not get through it! If saying "No" doesn't work, then showing it doesn't bother you will not deter someone who knows that it worked at one time. It will become a game to that person to find another spot. This is all about control and when one button doesn't work, another will or the victim will be harrassed until one is found.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 399913, member: 5096"] No one should have to go through the act of "desensitizing". No means NO! PERIOD. Once you tell someone that if you only desensitize yourself, you are giving the green light to the tickler. Go ahead, tickle if you must, if it bothers someone than THEY can deal with it by making themselves non-ticklish. There ARE innocent tickling sessions and as Susie stated, you need to trust your instincts. If you feel it is o.k. then don't worry about it. If you are not sure than either talk to the "victim" to see if he/she needs help in stopping it or just put a stop to it. I like the idea of watching the length of it. Also pay attention to how the "victim" reacts when told he/she will be visiting that person. Is he/she starting to find excuses not to go? Is he/she becoming more withdrawn around that person, making an effort not to sit near, ect? I would not try to tell the victim to try to desensitize. The victim needs your support to stop it, not get through it! If saying "No" doesn't work, then showing it doesn't bother you will not deter someone who knows that it worked at one time. It will become a game to that person to find another spot. This is all about control and when one button doesn't work, another will or the victim will be harrassed until one is found. [/QUOTE]
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