Argghhh, yes again

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by AmericanGirl, Jul 28, 2012.

  1. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Guest

    Well today's fun included:

    1. difficult child called me and a friend of mine to say he and idiot friend are now working for the police. Gonna help nab a child pornographer. Gonna get $2K each plus a complete get out of jail card from anywhere in the county.

    2. Contacted a friend whose husband is a county deputy. He says difficult child is full of you know what. He also took information about where difficult child might be, etc.

    3. I texted difficult child. Told him I loved him but wouldn't enable him and would always be there when he wanted help. Then I reported his cell phone lost or stolen (so it would lose service immediately and he couldn't sell it as now has bad serial no.) and closed his line down.

    4. difficult child called from the throw away phone he used to set this all up (he bought cause I blocked idiot friend from his old number.) Talking crazy. Told him same thing I had texted him. Hung up. Blocked that number.

    5. Huge fight with sister. She wouldn't stop telling me to don't talk to him anymore even though I told her "I closed down cell and blocked other number...what do you want from me?". We've texted once since but she's gotta back matter how mad she is at him for hurting me.

    6. difficult child called my friend. Angry. Said I was an addict and alcoholic. She asked him to get help and said she couldn't talk to him anymore. She's scared of him.

    7. Texted his ex-girlfriend and asked her to call me. She said her mom wouldn't allow her to talk to difficult child or anyone he hung out with. I asked her mom to call. girlfriend called with mom right beside her. Said he had been calling and threatening her and her friends for a while, especially in last few days. She has his numbers blocked. We agreed (and her mom okayed) that we would share basic information if we knew where he was staying, working, phone numbers, etc.

    My heart ached to think that the child I gave birth to is acting this way. I see a violent side to him.

    I find it hard - okay impossible - to believe that this is all substance addiction.

    Going to Lowe's tomorrow to buy some blinds for four windows which aren't covered. I'm nervous after dark. Have lived here over 20 years...never felt that way before.
  2. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    AG, geez, I don't know what to say. I am so sorry. This must all be so heartbreaking for you. I'm glad you're getting the blinds, you have to protect yourself and take care of yourself. Can your sister stay with you, for your feeling of safety but also just for company and someone to talk to? It would be good if you were not alone, at least tonight.

    I really understand your statement "My heart ached to think that the child I gave birth to is acting this way." I've thought that so many times, had to feel such disappointment and disbelief so many times, it just tore my heart up. I am getting much better now at accepting her for who she is, and right now, that is someone I can't/won't be around. I'm sorry AG, really I am. I am sending you prayers for safety and calm and strength and gentle hugs for comfort.
  3. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Please be careful. He's acting irrational, of course I don't need to tell you that. He will continue to escalate as long as he is using. It may be that whatever he is on is causing him to be delusional.

    Please check in with us often so we know you are ok.

  4. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Guest

    Sister is many miles away. I have load of friend who are watching over me.

    At his pace, this shouldn't take long before something happens.
  5. Kathy813

    Kathy813 Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Do you have an alarm system? We had one put in when difficult child was at her worst. That story about working for the police does sound delusional.

    I'm glad that you have friends watching over you.

  6. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Guest

    Kathy, yes. Installed it early this year. At night, I set motion detectors. Trying to remember to turn that off when I get up isn't easy for this old girl.
  7. pinevalley

    pinevalley Member

    AG: Please be careful. Your difficult child really sounds dangerous. I hope that you can check in here often so that we know you are OK. I hope that your difficult child can get help before anything more serious happens.
  8. 92025

    92025 Member

    What a nightmare! And all in one day!
  9. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    I totally get the bit about remembering to shut off alarm system. I set mine off all the time. I do not want to upset you more than you already are, but unless your system is a wireless one, it can be disarmed from outside the house. Is there anyway u can stay with a friend or a hotel?

    It does sound as if he is on something more than alcohol. The police can patrol your street if you call them and explain the situation.
  10. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Guest is wireless. Has a cell built ino it too. difficult child knows i have it but doesnt know a lot of details about it. Got it after he moved out, have just dropped comments about how comprehensive it is. Police are patrolling for next two weeks. Will continue if i call.

    Funny but...there is a retired chicago detective and his family moving in across the street soon. When i heard that, i laughed and told God thank you.

    Have started to leave something on floor outside by bedroom door. It reminds me of alarm.
  11. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    It sounds like you have put everything in place as much as possible. I imagine now it is just waiting for him to hit bottom. My prayers are with u guys.
  12. Signorina

    Signorina Guest

    Stay safe, dear friend. Hope he comes to his senses soon
  13. Calamity Jane

    Calamity Jane Well-Known Member

    No question, he must be on something else. Why else would he say that stuff about working for the police? I'm sorry, it must be so scary for you. Not that they work, but would you consider an order of protection? difficult children ex girlfriend might want to get one, too.
  14. AmericanGirl

    AmericanGirl Guest

    CJ, that may be my next step. Not sure i have enough yet, girlfriend does.
  15. Hopeless

    Hopeless ....Hopeful Now

    Sorry you are having to deal with all of this. Glad you have a security system.
  16. exhausted

    exhausted Active Member

    AG, Thinking of you and hoping you will be safe. I think difficult child is just doing his scary lies-this has pathology. There is something sick about these-they are huge lies and delusional almost. I don't know if it is drug or mental related.