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<blockquote data-quote="Dara" data-source="post: 146380" data-attributes="member: 3572"><p>Marg, I have to say that I do disagree with you a bit. I dont have the wrong mindset. I am simply frustrated and stating so here in a safe place. We have no help from other people. Sammy goes to therapy 3 days a week. It doesnt work in the home. We have been video taped watched and so on but the fact remains that therapy does not transfer in the home. I myself am a person with many different processing disabilities so I am very understanding to that. I do know first hand what it is like not to comprehend things properly. I do not put him in his room as punishment per say but I do need to stay without injury. He comes after me in violent attacks when he is mad and raging. He hits kicks punches scratches pinches and throws things at me so him being in his room keeps us both safe. I dont yell at him for the noises. They do however grate on my nerves after hours of hearing them. I do not punish him for that. I do try to distract him into maybe singing a song or engaging in conversation or a game. I do understand that Sammy goes about things in a different way. We embrace that and love that about him. I do think he is a wonderful sweet and funny little boy. I too agree that he doesnt fully comprehend things no matter what the tests say. All I am saying and have been saying is that we are frustrated and tired and running out of steam. We have no support. We have nobdy to watch him. We have nobody to help us when we are at the end of our ropes. All we hear is what we are doing wrong. My mother in law said that it is Sammy's fault that husband has Multiple Sclerosis. husband has a hard time keeping up with Sammy due to the illness. I have been to therapy for myself and they say I am doing well and everything we can possibly do for a child. </p><p>I do explain the why's and everything with everything. He is very strong willed. He will not give in to anything. very thing we do is a battle. Taking his medicine, changing his diaper, getting dressed and so on and so on. I have tried everything to help him with these things so it might be easier for him and me. I know that he wants to fit in and play with the other kids and has no idea how. We have been discussing this with therapists for months. Are they doing anything about it, no so we keep bringing it up. We are taking him out of the day treatment center in june and putting him back in the normal school so he can be with the friends he has there and let him learn from the "normal " kids. THe director of the school knows Sammy well and he will be in her class. She has a lot of experience with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids. </p><p>YOu have to understand that he also has been classified as having ODD so that adds a whole different mindset on top of the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). I know when Sammy is being defiant and choosing not to acknowlege and when he flat out has no idea what we are saying. There is a definite look on his face which shows it all. It is not something I can explain. ALl of his therapists doctors, and teachers agree. His therapsits have seen what I am talking about first hand. He is very difiant and that is why I come in everyday to the last hour of therapy to learn how to get him to listen which has yet to work at home. I cant help but be a little offended to the comment that I dont have the right mindset and need to meet him where he is. I know exactly where he is and have gone to every specialist and therapist and school and anything I can think of to help him properly. I am very frustrated and emotionally and physically exhausted and just exploding in a safe place.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dara, post: 146380, member: 3572"] Marg, I have to say that I do disagree with you a bit. I dont have the wrong mindset. I am simply frustrated and stating so here in a safe place. We have no help from other people. Sammy goes to therapy 3 days a week. It doesnt work in the home. We have been video taped watched and so on but the fact remains that therapy does not transfer in the home. I myself am a person with many different processing disabilities so I am very understanding to that. I do know first hand what it is like not to comprehend things properly. I do not put him in his room as punishment per say but I do need to stay without injury. He comes after me in violent attacks when he is mad and raging. He hits kicks punches scratches pinches and throws things at me so him being in his room keeps us both safe. I dont yell at him for the noises. They do however grate on my nerves after hours of hearing them. I do not punish him for that. I do try to distract him into maybe singing a song or engaging in conversation or a game. I do understand that Sammy goes about things in a different way. We embrace that and love that about him. I do think he is a wonderful sweet and funny little boy. I too agree that he doesnt fully comprehend things no matter what the tests say. All I am saying and have been saying is that we are frustrated and tired and running out of steam. We have no support. We have nobdy to watch him. We have nobody to help us when we are at the end of our ropes. All we hear is what we are doing wrong. My mother in law said that it is Sammy's fault that husband has Multiple Sclerosis. husband has a hard time keeping up with Sammy due to the illness. I have been to therapy for myself and they say I am doing well and everything we can possibly do for a child. I do explain the why's and everything with everything. He is very strong willed. He will not give in to anything. very thing we do is a battle. Taking his medicine, changing his diaper, getting dressed and so on and so on. I have tried everything to help him with these things so it might be easier for him and me. I know that he wants to fit in and play with the other kids and has no idea how. We have been discussing this with therapists for months. Are they doing anything about it, no so we keep bringing it up. We are taking him out of the day treatment center in june and putting him back in the normal school so he can be with the friends he has there and let him learn from the "normal " kids. THe director of the school knows Sammy well and he will be in her class. She has a lot of experience with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids. YOu have to understand that he also has been classified as having ODD so that adds a whole different mindset on top of the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). I know when Sammy is being defiant and choosing not to acknowlege and when he flat out has no idea what we are saying. There is a definite look on his face which shows it all. It is not something I can explain. ALl of his therapists doctors, and teachers agree. His therapsits have seen what I am talking about first hand. He is very difiant and that is why I come in everyday to the last hour of therapy to learn how to get him to listen which has yet to work at home. I cant help but be a little offended to the comment that I dont have the right mindset and need to meet him where he is. I know exactly where he is and have gone to every specialist and therapist and school and anything I can think of to help him properly. I am very frustrated and emotionally and physically exhausted and just exploding in a safe place. [/QUOTE]
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