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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 235564" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I understand, believe me. I didn't mean that I have the answers.. I don't .. the system is LOUSY and is getting worse. It's exhausting, overwhelming, and downright impossible. I went into bankruptcy, lost a job, a house, friends. There are days you can't go on.. but you do, somehow. I've been where you are. Sadly, I had to accept the system as it was.. and find ways to work with it. There's not much choice. I also took my frustrations... the things you are saying here, and said them to the hospitals, the courts, the doctors ... just as you're doing. Asked them if they were going to wait until difficult child was dead before they did something. It's why I had to go to the outrageous step of filing paperwork to turn over custody to the state, just to get youngest help. That was the only thing that got their attention, because they didn't WANT to take custody ... and they freaked and gave me what I wanted, and I was able to rescind my filing. But it was a scary prospect, and one I wasn't sure she would ever forgive me for. It's also not something I would ever expect anyone else to do.</p><p></p><p>I'm not trying to make you feel worse, and I hope I haven't. I was trying to be realistic... things don't work quickly with the county/state/courts/schools/hospitals... accepting those things helped ME to cope when I knew what realistically could and couldn't happen. I worked hard on trying to find the positive in every step, no matter how messed up and backward it seemed. I forget sometimes that people's thought processes and coping mechanisms tend to be quite different from mine, and I apologize if I came across as insensitive. </p><p></p><p>There is still hope. Don't give up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 235564, member: 1157"] I understand, believe me. I didn't mean that I have the answers.. I don't .. the system is LOUSY and is getting worse. It's exhausting, overwhelming, and downright impossible. I went into bankruptcy, lost a job, a house, friends. There are days you can't go on.. but you do, somehow. I've been where you are. Sadly, I had to accept the system as it was.. and find ways to work with it. There's not much choice. I also took my frustrations... the things you are saying here, and said them to the hospitals, the courts, the doctors ... just as you're doing. Asked them if they were going to wait until difficult child was dead before they did something. It's why I had to go to the outrageous step of filing paperwork to turn over custody to the state, just to get youngest help. That was the only thing that got their attention, because they didn't WANT to take custody ... and they freaked and gave me what I wanted, and I was able to rescind my filing. But it was a scary prospect, and one I wasn't sure she would ever forgive me for. It's also not something I would ever expect anyone else to do. I'm not trying to make you feel worse, and I hope I haven't. I was trying to be realistic... things don't work quickly with the county/state/courts/schools/hospitals... accepting those things helped ME to cope when I knew what realistically could and couldn't happen. I worked hard on trying to find the positive in every step, no matter how messed up and backward it seemed. I forget sometimes that people's thought processes and coping mechanisms tend to be quite different from mine, and I apologize if I came across as insensitive. There is still hope. Don't give up. [/QUOTE]
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