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Arghhhh... the ups and downs dealing with difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 526562"><p>Ok another update... sigh.... I spent a lot of time on the phone today looking into non AA programs. I talked to a really nice guy at this referral place who told me that Roxies (the opiate my son is addicted to) is more powerful than heroin. Well thats just great! Anyway I looked into one program which sounded really great.... and just right for my difficult child but when I looked more I found a lot of negative reviews and info that really made me pause. So I looked at another program which also sounds good although more expensive....can you tell I am getting invested into where he goes and that we have sort of decided to let him try one more treatment place that maybe is a different approach.</p><p></p><p>Tried to call him at the detox in the middle of the day but they are very strict about when they can have phone calls. So he called us back this evening. He is still feeling lousy... I told him about the programs. He either wants to stay where he is or come back up here... he doesn't want to go yet somewhere else. He cut me off pretty quickly and said to email him what I found out, and when he gets discharged he will go the library and look stuff up. He is afraid we will send him somewhere new and he will be stuck there (which I can understand).</p><p></p><p>Anyway I worry about him being discharged and back on the street as I think he will use again and maybe at this point that is his plan.</p><p></p><p>But I realized he has asked me to back off, to send him the info I have and let him make the decision and so that is what I have to do..... I don't think it is good that he wants to be discharged before making any plan. In fact I think it is a terrible idea..... but he doesn't trust me and he probably wants a chance to use again and is not serious. And there is nothing I can do.</p><p></p><p>However I have a little more internal peace in that I feel like I tried to find him options but as we all know I can't make him take them.</p><p></p><p>It has been interesting talking to some programs that are non AA programs. Some of what they say makes sense... and I think about how some folks here have really not liked alanon.... and it makes sense to me that for some addicts AA doesn't fit..... and one place told me AA is great for support once you have decided to be sober but it doesnt really get to the why you use drugs in the first place... and all of that makes sense to me.</p><p></p><p>So when he is really ready for real treatment we will probably help but I am only going to email him what i find out and we will see where he goes from here.</p><p></p><p>And Susie you mentioned those panhandlers.... every time I see a person with a sign by the side of the road I think of my difficult child and wonder if that is how he is getting by?? </p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 526562"] Ok another update... sigh.... I spent a lot of time on the phone today looking into non AA programs. I talked to a really nice guy at this referral place who told me that Roxies (the opiate my son is addicted to) is more powerful than heroin. Well thats just great! Anyway I looked into one program which sounded really great.... and just right for my difficult child but when I looked more I found a lot of negative reviews and info that really made me pause. So I looked at another program which also sounds good although more expensive....can you tell I am getting invested into where he goes and that we have sort of decided to let him try one more treatment place that maybe is a different approach. Tried to call him at the detox in the middle of the day but they are very strict about when they can have phone calls. So he called us back this evening. He is still feeling lousy... I told him about the programs. He either wants to stay where he is or come back up here... he doesn't want to go yet somewhere else. He cut me off pretty quickly and said to email him what I found out, and when he gets discharged he will go the library and look stuff up. He is afraid we will send him somewhere new and he will be stuck there (which I can understand). Anyway I worry about him being discharged and back on the street as I think he will use again and maybe at this point that is his plan. But I realized he has asked me to back off, to send him the info I have and let him make the decision and so that is what I have to do..... I don't think it is good that he wants to be discharged before making any plan. In fact I think it is a terrible idea..... but he doesn't trust me and he probably wants a chance to use again and is not serious. And there is nothing I can do. However I have a little more internal peace in that I feel like I tried to find him options but as we all know I can't make him take them. It has been interesting talking to some programs that are non AA programs. Some of what they say makes sense... and I think about how some folks here have really not liked alanon.... and it makes sense to me that for some addicts AA doesn't fit..... and one place told me AA is great for support once you have decided to be sober but it doesnt really get to the why you use drugs in the first place... and all of that makes sense to me. So when he is really ready for real treatment we will probably help but I am only going to email him what i find out and we will see where he goes from here. And Susie you mentioned those panhandlers.... every time I see a person with a sign by the side of the road I think of my difficult child and wonder if that is how he is getting by?? TL [/QUOTE]
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