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flutterbee
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You know, you just can't win. I mean, it's not about winning, but sometimes no matter what you do or say, it's going to start that circular reasoning.
difficult child is going to the doctor today about her eye. It's still red and painful, causing headaches. She just came in and she has on makeup - including eye makeup. I told her that with a possible infection in her eye, we should probably err on the side of caution and not wear eye makeup.
All of a sudden she starts with, "I can't do anything right." Where did that come from? I told her I was just giving her advice. She told me I was criticizing her. I said that she had never experienced this kind of problem before and I was just making her aware of the risks of wearing eye makeup with a possible infection. Even Devon tried to explain that I was just giving advice and wasn't being critical in either my tone or my words.
But, by then she *wanted* to argue. And it goes from she can't do anything right, to everyone criticizes everything she does, and on and on. She said she can't take advice as anything other than criticism. "That's just how I am."
I told her that nothing that was said warranted her reaction and she needs to go somewhere and calm down because I wasn't arguing with her. Of course, that just made her more angry.
ARGH!
difficult child is going to the doctor today about her eye. It's still red and painful, causing headaches. She just came in and she has on makeup - including eye makeup. I told her that with a possible infection in her eye, we should probably err on the side of caution and not wear eye makeup.
All of a sudden she starts with, "I can't do anything right." Where did that come from? I told her I was just giving her advice. She told me I was criticizing her. I said that she had never experienced this kind of problem before and I was just making her aware of the risks of wearing eye makeup with a possible infection. Even Devon tried to explain that I was just giving advice and wasn't being critical in either my tone or my words.
But, by then she *wanted* to argue. And it goes from she can't do anything right, to everyone criticizes everything she does, and on and on. She said she can't take advice as anything other than criticism. "That's just how I am."
I told her that nothing that was said warranted her reaction and she needs to go somewhere and calm down because I wasn't arguing with her. Of course, that just made her more angry.
ARGH!
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