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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 263644" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Eeky, I'm a hard-bolied NT as well, so I understand what you're dealing with.</p><p></p><p>A couple of things...</p><p></p><p>1) Because I tend to be very quiet and reserved, I don't usually jump in with the advice (although it's all queued up in my head, should someone ask for it).</p><p></p><p>2) Over the years, people have gotten to know that I'm the person to come to when you want direct advice or information, thinking and reason. I don't "do" emotions very well, so people have learned not to seek that from me.</p><p></p><p>I don't think that it makes you a bad friend if you're not responding with "there, there" or the equivalent. It may be that you're not meeting that person's particular needs, but then again, perhaps she should be seeking someone else out when she wants to vent, and coming to you when she wants to listen and learn.</p><p></p><p>I think "feeling" responses do tend to be more of a female trait, so people find it unusual when a woman is more "thinking", but there's nothing wrong with it.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 263644, member: 3907"] Eeky, I'm a hard-bolied NT as well, so I understand what you're dealing with. A couple of things... 1) Because I tend to be very quiet and reserved, I don't usually jump in with the advice (although it's all queued up in my head, should someone ask for it). 2) Over the years, people have gotten to know that I'm the person to come to when you want direct advice or information, thinking and reason. I don't "do" emotions very well, so people have learned not to seek that from me. I don't think that it makes you a bad friend if you're not responding with "there, there" or the equivalent. It may be that you're not meeting that person's particular needs, but then again, perhaps she should be seeking someone else out when she wants to vent, and coming to you when she wants to listen and learn. I think "feeling" responses do tend to be more of a female trait, so people find it unusual when a woman is more "thinking", but there's nothing wrong with it. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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