AS??? Calling All Brains!

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by ShakespeareMamaX, Jul 4, 2007.

  1. ShakespeareMamaX

    ShakespeareMamaX New Member

    Can somebody (or many people) please explain to me what AS is and the symptoms of it?

    There was a suggestion that maybe that's what's going on with my son, but I'm not very knowledgable on the disorder.

    Symptoms, treatments, parental coping skills, etc...

    If you know, throw it at me!

    <3 Thanks a bunch! <3 :salute:
     
  2. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    Are you trying to be funny with this title here? Because that is a rather clever pun, I think.

    "Calling all brains" - often the smartest people you know, are Aspies. I once worked in a university department - it was bedlam, with all the unstable geniuses everywhere, each raving on about his/her own special field (although it is interesting to note - the women in the department did seem mostly saner. There were a few sane-seeming men, too, among the usual obsessive geniuses).
    Or are you wanting brains to answer your question? As I said, a good one indeed.

    What defines Asperger's Syndrome? Have a browse online for anything written by Tony Attwood on the subject. Although he's an Aussie, he's definitely made his mark on the world stage in this area.

    For us, we were told that Asperger's is a form of high-functioning autism, but one in which there is no history of language delay. This is why difficult child 1, who talked and communicated at the usual milestones but scores as "mild-moderate" on the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire, is labelled as Aspie, but difficult child 3, who had significant language delay and scored moderate for Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), is not Asperger's but fully autistic. (which is a bit inaccurate - Asperger's is also 'fully autistic' too).
    For an informal peek at the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire, go to http://www.childbrain.com. You can do the online test there on behalf of your children but you can't use it as a diagnostic tool, only as a thought-provoking stimulus for you. Print it out and take it to a specialist, let them think about it on a more professional level.

    Looking at what you've indicated about your son, I notice he's been labelled ADHD since he was 5. You sound like you feel it's not the whole picture - I felt the same way about difficult child 1. I kept asking, "Why is he so withdrawn when people are looking at him? Why is he so odd, socially? Why does he curl up in a ball on the floor, for hours, rather than have people sing Happy Birthday to him?"
    It took until difficult child 3 was diagnosed, and someone finally joined the dots for his older brother (15, by this time) that we got the more appropriate label. And ironically, now he is 23 even his girlfriend insists there's nothing wrong with him. But there is, we can see it. It's just that he's 'morphed' his Asperger's into a fun-loving, energetic, enthusiastic (on his pet topic) and highly intellectual young man. Immature in many ways, but a lot of common sense is creeping in. That, plus the innate rule-following that goes hand in hand with this condition (their rules, though) means that I have a young man to be proud of.

    When he's stressed he doesn't cope well. Increasingly, it takes more stress for him to fall apart so he's needing my help less and less. When he needs help he's like a needy five year old. When he's coping, he's a tower of strength.

    And his father, we now realise, is much the same, but he had to adapt and cope without medical intervention or support.

    Support can make a big difference. You also need to really understand what is making them tick. But once you've got a system working, you will be amazed at the incredible brain power you've helped them unleash.

    Marg
     
  3. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    Well, I assume the condition you are asking about is Aspergers Syndrome. Marg is right, anything by Tony
    Attwood is the "gold standard" so to speak. My oldest is an Aspie, and can be totally delightful. His social skills are definitely immature, but his brain power is out of htis world (when he chooses to use it). The most powerful thing I have learned about Aspies is that common sense is not so common to them. They have a really hard time with it, or at least the ones I know do.

    Girls present Aspie somewhat differently, but there is literature that will tell you about that.

    I would first try to get a solid idea of any sensory issues your child has. Clothing tags, foods, noises, whatever. A good occupational therapist can give you a full evaluation. Schools do provide this, but you have to really ride them.

    I found wiht my Aspie that his sensory issues were such a problem that he just couldn't function in certain environments.

    There is hope. My 15yo is now a fairly easy to get along with delight. He lives with my parents because he was very violent with us. But my dad, a newly retired jr high teacher, dealt with it so that somehow he learned that outbursts only get you tons of work. My son just participated in a community theater project and was well liked by all the kids, and the directors. He is forging new relationships with his siblings and husband and I.

    You probably won't have to send your difficult child somewhere else to live. It all depends on the situation and the family. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do, and one of the best things also.

    There is hope.
    Aspies just are wired a bit differently than the rest of us.

    Susie
     
  4. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

  5. ShakespeareMamaX

    ShakespeareMamaX New Member

    Thank you guys so much for your fantastical knowledge! I'll read up on this subject more and more and keep you updated on whether this was the actual culprit.

    Thanks, again!
     
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