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<blockquote data-quote="Irene_J" data-source="post: 40628" data-attributes="member: 181"><p>Sorry I'm getting in on this a little late, but I had to post. You can see from my signature that my difficult child is now in community college. In her sophmore year, I was preparing myself for her becoming a hs dropout. She skipped classes regularly, missed assignments and failed classes. I grew exhausted chasing after HER homework and making sure SHE was meeting project deadlines. If she had a paper due, so did I and went to the library along with her.</p><p></p><p>Then, I just stopped. I told her that if she didn't graduate at 18, she would be out of my house and on her own. Eventually she saw that I was serious when I stopped checking up. She failed classes and I refused to go to the teacher to try to get her extra assignments to bring the grade up. One time she even shouted at me that "you don't even care if I don't graduate. What kind of mother are you?" </p><p></p><p>So, guess what happened? She started doing better. Kids that she had been with since second grade started talking about what to wear to the prom and the senior picnic. She wanted to go, too. She went to summer school and made up the classes she failed. We had it worked out in her IEP that when she felt she was about to lose her composure, she could take a few minutes with the high school counselor so she wouldn't end up in detention or suspended. But the trigger for all of this was my difficult child. No matter what I wanted, she had to want it too. And oh yeah, she dropped her loser friends.</p><p></p><p>So, she'll have to do community college before she goes on to a 4-year school, but that's okay. I think you are on the right track. Remember, there is always summer school if your difficult child has to get some additional credits, if he cares to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Irene_J, post: 40628, member: 181"] Sorry I'm getting in on this a little late, but I had to post. You can see from my signature that my difficult child is now in community college. In her sophmore year, I was preparing myself for her becoming a hs dropout. She skipped classes regularly, missed assignments and failed classes. I grew exhausted chasing after HER homework and making sure SHE was meeting project deadlines. If she had a paper due, so did I and went to the library along with her. Then, I just stopped. I told her that if she didn't graduate at 18, she would be out of my house and on her own. Eventually she saw that I was serious when I stopped checking up. She failed classes and I refused to go to the teacher to try to get her extra assignments to bring the grade up. One time she even shouted at me that "you don't even care if I don't graduate. What kind of mother are you?" So, guess what happened? She started doing better. Kids that she had been with since second grade started talking about what to wear to the prom and the senior picnic. She wanted to go, too. She went to summer school and made up the classes she failed. We had it worked out in her IEP that when she felt she was about to lose her composure, she could take a few minutes with the high school counselor so she wouldn't end up in detention or suspended. But the trigger for all of this was my difficult child. No matter what I wanted, she had to want it too. And oh yeah, she dropped her loser friends. So, she'll have to do community college before she goes on to a 4-year school, but that's okay. I think you are on the right track. Remember, there is always summer school if your difficult child has to get some additional credits, if he cares to. [/QUOTE]
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