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As I Sit Here - UPDATED FROM COURT
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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 24601" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>sometimes we find out things are not what we thought they were, or maybe they are not working the way "theory" says they work. </p><p></p><p>We criticize our difficult children and are disappointed when they do not learn thru their experiences and make the same mistakes over again- doing the same things that already got them certain results. If we keep doing what we always do we will get what we always got? </p><p></p><p>Sometimes one place might be the wrong place, but sometimes an entire system is totally flawed and not working right. From what I have read here of Jannas situation, it was not one foster home that was wrong, or one court hearing or one thing, it was many things, many times, over and over again where it all never came together quite right. And it sure seems highly possible that instead of helping her child over time, in the long run, it caused MORE damage. IF that is the case, why would Janna want to ever try it again? Once burned, twice shy. </p><p></p><p>I am confused and not sure why people here are having such difficulty with any of us saying something like this? It is not quite the same as saying I never WILL do that- it is saying OK I have done this and for us it did not work, so now I am not doing that again. AND I do not see Janna telling anyone else not to try it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 24601, member: 1697"] sometimes we find out things are not what we thought they were, or maybe they are not working the way "theory" says they work. We criticize our difficult children and are disappointed when they do not learn thru their experiences and make the same mistakes over again- doing the same things that already got them certain results. If we keep doing what we always do we will get what we always got? Sometimes one place might be the wrong place, but sometimes an entire system is totally flawed and not working right. From what I have read here of Jannas situation, it was not one foster home that was wrong, or one court hearing or one thing, it was many things, many times, over and over again where it all never came together quite right. And it sure seems highly possible that instead of helping her child over time, in the long run, it caused MORE damage. IF that is the case, why would Janna want to ever try it again? Once burned, twice shy. I am confused and not sure why people here are having such difficulty with any of us saying something like this? It is not quite the same as saying I never WILL do that- it is saying OK I have done this and for us it did not work, so now I am not doing that again. AND I do not see Janna telling anyone else not to try it. [/QUOTE]
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