New here. First post. Found this site today as I was searching for answers because I've been dying inside for the past 24 hours... actually the last 3 months. Here's the nutshell version of our family drama: Daughter 20 depressed. Sociology/Theater major. Doesn't drive. Not currently employed. Lives at home with stepdad and mom (me). Totally dependent on parents. Has marginal relationship with father and stepmom. In October, boyfriend (of 1 year) dumped her. Depression turned into destructive behavior including quitting school, drinking, getting tattoos, and hooking up with random strangers on Tinder. Lots of drama. Lots of lying. Lots of manipulation. Warned her about bringing home strangers ESPECIALLY "Tinder Guys." Of course she promised me that she would NEVER do such a thing (just like she promised she would NEVER get a tattoo). Made it clear that if she ever did this, she would be OUT! Fast forward to yesterday when she promised again that she would NEVER bring home a stranger and got caught with a Tinder hookup in her bedroom (less than an hour after our aforementioned). Lied about the situation and the relationship. Young man admitted to being a "Tinder Guy" and apologized for disrespecting our home, shook our hands, and left. Stepdad and I told her to pack a bag for a few days and that she should go live with her father and stepmom for a while. We explained (again) that by bringing home strangers she opens herself, her 16 year old step sister, 18 year old brother, and our home to horrific dangers. She clearly doesn't get it and continued to lie about the situation even though we caught her in the act. She stayed with a friend last night and will do so again tonight as she has MD appts in the area and Uber/Lyft are eating up all her $$$. Will go to her dad's this weekend. I know that I cannot put our other children and our home at risk by allowing her to come back. I know that I cannot continue to enable her, but I also know that I'm dying inside because this adult-daughter of mine is my life, my best friend, my everything and I don't know how to get through this new chapter in our lives. I know today is only Day 1, but I'm not sure I can get though Days 2 and more.... Thank you for "listening." Everyone's Mom.... except my own.