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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 23370" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>On keeping in touch - we used a communication book (not needed now he is home all the time). The book travelled in difficult child 3's school bag and we would write in it anything we felt would enlighten or help the teacher and they would write back mentioning any problems (or good things too). It helped a lot to be able to put the puzzle pieces together. Sometimes a teacher's apparently random observations would suddenly make sense to us because we had the home picture as well to guide us. Or if his behaviour was atrocious at home, much worse than usual, and we mentioned this, the teacher might write, "You say he's been worse at home since Tuesday afternoon - well he did have a loud argument in the school playground at Tuesday lunchtime and has been banned from playing on the climbing frame as a result. Maybe that's it."</p><p>Putting this together with careful questioning of difficult child 3 at home, might give the answer that he doesn't understand why he's been banned from the climbing frame (which means he's learning nothing from the punishment) and therefore the teacher need to be aware that the climbing frame problem is highly likely to recur.</p><p></p><p>Little things like this will quickly escalate if you don't keep on top of them. And the communication book helped both school and home to stay on top of it all.</p><p></p><p>An important point - both teacher and parent have to be the ones to use the book and put it back in his bag. it is not the child's job to do this. it's far more important to have the book where it should be, than to use the book as a tool to teach the child to be responsible. Teach him to be responsible about his pencil case, instead. Anything but the book. For us, it was the times that the book went missing that the wheels fell off our coping systems at school and at home.</p><p></p><p>ANY child who is sufficiently difficult child would benefit from the use of a communication book. And the ones who benefit the most - those who have to handle the child - family and school. Others also benefit - the doctor, the babysitter, the extended family.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 23370, member: 1991"] On keeping in touch - we used a communication book (not needed now he is home all the time). The book travelled in difficult child 3's school bag and we would write in it anything we felt would enlighten or help the teacher and they would write back mentioning any problems (or good things too). It helped a lot to be able to put the puzzle pieces together. Sometimes a teacher's apparently random observations would suddenly make sense to us because we had the home picture as well to guide us. Or if his behaviour was atrocious at home, much worse than usual, and we mentioned this, the teacher might write, "You say he's been worse at home since Tuesday afternoon - well he did have a loud argument in the school playground at Tuesday lunchtime and has been banned from playing on the climbing frame as a result. Maybe that's it." Putting this together with careful questioning of difficult child 3 at home, might give the answer that he doesn't understand why he's been banned from the climbing frame (which means he's learning nothing from the punishment) and therefore the teacher need to be aware that the climbing frame problem is highly likely to recur. Little things like this will quickly escalate if you don't keep on top of them. And the communication book helped both school and home to stay on top of it all. An important point - both teacher and parent have to be the ones to use the book and put it back in his bag. it is not the child's job to do this. it's far more important to have the book where it should be, than to use the book as a tool to teach the child to be responsible. Teach him to be responsible about his pencil case, instead. Anything but the book. For us, it was the times that the book went missing that the wheels fell off our coping systems at school and at home. ANY child who is sufficiently difficult child would benefit from the use of a communication book. And the ones who benefit the most - those who have to handle the child - family and school. Others also benefit - the doctor, the babysitter, the extended family. Marg [/QUOTE]
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