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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 222956" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I've cut and pasted from MWM (because I'm lazy) and because so many of my difficult child's "habits" are so similar. He does not have as many signs, though, and is very high functioning.</p><p> </p><p>***</p><p>Often sensory problems with sound, light, textures, foods, etc.--craves stimulation of computers and noise (aka Chucky Cheese) and then has a complete meltdown afterward.</p><p></p><p>Often poor eye contact with strangers-- people say he's rude.</p><p></p><p>Inability to play socially APPROPRIATELY with same-age peers. He may PLAY, but not in an appropriate, give-and-take way. He may converse, but more monologue or butt in with his own topics than join the conversation (this is from early age).--</p><p>Will only attend birthday parties if he likes the venue (aka with-computers, etc.), will leave the party during what other kids consider a fun activity, and play by himself on the piano or on a computer keyboard and we will have to go find him in another part of someone's house or even in a diff part of a public bldg. (he's pretty much outgrown this part).</p><p></p><p>May copy by rote what others say or television shows they watch--would repeat his sister's stories and pretend they were his, such as what she did today in school. When you asked him what he really did he would scream, "I don't KNOW!" Now that he's older, he will tell you that he doesn't want to talk about it, and later on, once he's chilled out at home, he will talk about his day on his own time.</p><p></p><p>Great rote memory--time of the day to the minute, aka 12:06, but can't remember where he put his backpack.</p><p></p><p>Cluelessness/immaturity about things that other kids seem to get just by existing--(pottying maybe, any sort of socializing, may make a huge deal out of taking a bath, etc)--a huge issue with-taking off shirts, especially turtlenecks, putting on shoes, taking turns (finally "got it" about 2 yrs ago).</p><p></p><p>Big time trouble with transitions. BIG TIME. MAJOR ISSUE.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes rages if frustrated or tired/can be defiant and inflexible. BIG TIME ISSUE. Still is. Especially rages and is inflexible if he's been on a computer game for several hrs. Can't seem to fit back into real life again.</p><p></p><p>Often doesn't play with toys or play's strangely with them as in maybe lines them up or dismantles them rather than using imaginative play--never had a pacifier, blankie or favorite toy until he was about 8, and then slept with an aluminum and plastic truck. Lined up toys at the top of the stairway. If anyone touched one, it was total chaos. Still does it but only yells for a min. if someone walks over him. Doesn't "get" that he's in anyone's way at the top of the stairs.</p><p></p><p>Poor imaginative play unless copying something seen on television (good at remembering television shows)--Could not make up stories for assignments at school; often copied other kids' papers, even when it came to family Christmas rituals.</p><p></p><p>Often flat affect and lack of expression (more with Aspergers than Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified)--can smile and laugh, sometimes hysterically, but more often has a blank or almost angry/scary stare.</p><p></p><p>With Aspergers some kids are plain brilliant, but some are bright, but may excel in one area (like math) and struggle in others. This is also common in Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified. Aspies are often interested very early in techie stuff, like computers. </p><p>Yep.</p><p></p><p>Literal thinking--no gray areas. If you say "You're making me blue" he may say "You aren't blue" and be perfectly serious. "I've told you a million times," (No, you've only told me twice!); When driving, pretending there's a chauffer, "Home, James." "That's NOT James! It's Daddy! James is the babysitter's boyfriend!" Total meltdown ensues. </p><p></p><p>Strange sense of humor, but often very clever sense of humor--Absolutely. Comes up with-zingers at very appropriate times, perfectly blending personal habits with political issues. </p><p></p><p>Often not much into cuddling--only when he wants to, on demand. No clue when anyone else is sick, for ex.</p><p> </p><p>Had to learn facial expressions by memorization--I sat down at the kitchen table with-him when he was 8 or 9 and made a bunch of faces and had him guess what kind of mood they represented. He was clueless when I pretended to cry and used a tissue. When I smiled, he didn't say "happy," he said, "Okay." When I laughed out loud he said he knew what it meant but couldn't come up with-a word for it. </p><p>The only one he got right was anger. </p><p> </p><p>I would add that each day is different. Some days he is higher functioning than others. I see a lot of similarities between my son's behaviour and my dad's, and my dad has Alzheimer's. Some days he's great, other days he's totally clueless. A good night's sleep and lack of stress makes a huge difference for both of them.</p><p> </p><p>The same goes for bipolar--sleep and lack of stress are paramount. Anything that affect us adults, such as temperature, weather, hunger, lack of sleep--will make us cranky but we deal with-it. The reactions from these kids is multiplied tenfold.</p><p> </p><p>Also, with-bipolar, the moods tend to continue on for several hrs or even days after a particular trigger has been eliminated. I noticed with-my son, that once the trigger is elminated, he is back to new the very next day.</p><p> </p><p>He has anxiety issues and we still haven't figured out whether that's a cause or effect so all I can do is tell you what we've learned up to this point.</p><p> </p><p>Best of luck! It's all a learning experience.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 222956, member: 3419"] I've cut and pasted from MWM (because I'm lazy) and because so many of my difficult child's "habits" are so similar. He does not have as many signs, though, and is very high functioning. *** Often sensory problems with sound, light, textures, foods, etc.--craves stimulation of computers and noise (aka Chucky Cheese) and then has a complete meltdown afterward. Often poor eye contact with strangers-- people say he's rude. Inability to play socially APPROPRIATELY with same-age peers. He may PLAY, but not in an appropriate, give-and-take way. He may converse, but more monologue or butt in with his own topics than join the conversation (this is from early age).-- Will only attend birthday parties if he likes the venue (aka with-computers, etc.), will leave the party during what other kids consider a fun activity, and play by himself on the piano or on a computer keyboard and we will have to go find him in another part of someone's house or even in a diff part of a public bldg. (he's pretty much outgrown this part). May copy by rote what others say or television shows they watch--would repeat his sister's stories and pretend they were his, such as what she did today in school. When you asked him what he really did he would scream, "I don't KNOW!" Now that he's older, he will tell you that he doesn't want to talk about it, and later on, once he's chilled out at home, he will talk about his day on his own time. Great rote memory--time of the day to the minute, aka 12:06, but can't remember where he put his backpack. Cluelessness/immaturity about things that other kids seem to get just by existing--(pottying maybe, any sort of socializing, may make a huge deal out of taking a bath, etc)--a huge issue with-taking off shirts, especially turtlenecks, putting on shoes, taking turns (finally "got it" about 2 yrs ago). Big time trouble with transitions. BIG TIME. MAJOR ISSUE. Sometimes rages if frustrated or tired/can be defiant and inflexible. BIG TIME ISSUE. Still is. Especially rages and is inflexible if he's been on a computer game for several hrs. Can't seem to fit back into real life again. Often doesn't play with toys or play's strangely with them as in maybe lines them up or dismantles them rather than using imaginative play--never had a pacifier, blankie or favorite toy until he was about 8, and then slept with an aluminum and plastic truck. Lined up toys at the top of the stairway. If anyone touched one, it was total chaos. Still does it but only yells for a min. if someone walks over him. Doesn't "get" that he's in anyone's way at the top of the stairs. Poor imaginative play unless copying something seen on television (good at remembering television shows)--Could not make up stories for assignments at school; often copied other kids' papers, even when it came to family Christmas rituals. Often flat affect and lack of expression (more with Aspergers than Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified)--can smile and laugh, sometimes hysterically, but more often has a blank or almost angry/scary stare. With Aspergers some kids are plain brilliant, but some are bright, but may excel in one area (like math) and struggle in others. This is also common in Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified. Aspies are often interested very early in techie stuff, like computers. Yep. Literal thinking--no gray areas. If you say "You're making me blue" he may say "You aren't blue" and be perfectly serious. "I've told you a million times," (No, you've only told me twice!); When driving, pretending there's a chauffer, "Home, James." "That's NOT James! It's Daddy! James is the babysitter's boyfriend!" Total meltdown ensues. Strange sense of humor, but often very clever sense of humor--Absolutely. Comes up with-zingers at very appropriate times, perfectly blending personal habits with political issues. Often not much into cuddling--only when he wants to, on demand. No clue when anyone else is sick, for ex. Had to learn facial expressions by memorization--I sat down at the kitchen table with-him when he was 8 or 9 and made a bunch of faces and had him guess what kind of mood they represented. He was clueless when I pretended to cry and used a tissue. When I smiled, he didn't say "happy," he said, "Okay." When I laughed out loud he said he knew what it meant but couldn't come up with-a word for it. The only one he got right was anger. I would add that each day is different. Some days he is higher functioning than others. I see a lot of similarities between my son's behaviour and my dad's, and my dad has Alzheimer's. Some days he's great, other days he's totally clueless. A good night's sleep and lack of stress makes a huge difference for both of them. The same goes for bipolar--sleep and lack of stress are paramount. Anything that affect us adults, such as temperature, weather, hunger, lack of sleep--will make us cranky but we deal with-it. The reactions from these kids is multiplied tenfold. Also, with-bipolar, the moods tend to continue on for several hrs or even days after a particular trigger has been eliminated. I noticed with-my son, that once the trigger is elminated, he is back to new the very next day. He has anxiety issues and we still haven't figured out whether that's a cause or effect so all I can do is tell you what we've learned up to this point. Best of luck! It's all a learning experience. [/QUOTE]
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