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Aspergers vs ODD ...and Slapping Self in Face
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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 205673" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Yup! Been there done that! difficult child 1 does it when he's stressing, angry and can't verbalize what's bothering him (which has resulted in an ambulance ride to the psychiatric ER!), etc.</p><p> </p><p>I want to put your mind at ease. Since you're at the beginning of the "diagnostic trail", you're probably reading tons of stuff and getting at least a little nervous (most likely considering slapping yourself to see if it might releave your OWN stress! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" />).</p><p> </p><p>Quite often, Aspies eventually learn to adapt and function beautifully in this big ol' world. Although they're on the dreaded spectrum, there's a lot to work with via training, therapy, intervention etc.</p><p> </p><p>Just wanted to brighten the picture for you! Talk to her about her feelings when your see her getting so upset. With our kids, it turned out that they couldn't differentiate between anger, frustration, fear or anxiety. They just "felt bad" or had a "bad feeling". We didn't discover this via the professionals by the way (I'm on a "I hate the psychiatric world" binge right now), it was being diligent and alert to what was impacting them at the moment.</p><p> </p><p>One of the best pieces of advise that I can give you is: try to identify the trigger - What set her off? What was going on that may have gotten under her skin? This way you can decide if it's a good idea to avoid something (sensory - a certain sound, fabrics, visual stims, etc.) OR if it's gradual tolerance (another child that has some sort of issue) OR "let's find a way to deal with it (certain loud noises would trigger difficult child 2 to run like H-E-double hockey sticks - so we tried different things to do if something startled him) OR "beat them at their own game" (difficult child 1 would rock on the back legs of his chair so far that it scared the prunes out of his teacher - I got a "travel pillow" that we tucked behind his backside so he couldn't slide back enough in the chair to tilt it).</p><p> </p><p>The hard part is that teachers, administrators etc. RARELY have to opportunity to identify triggers, whether it be too big a class, or another child having issues, etc. </p><p> </p><p>Keep in mind - it's hard, but not impossible!</p><p> </p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 205673, member: 3814"] Yup! Been there done that! difficult child 1 does it when he's stressing, angry and can't verbalize what's bothering him (which has resulted in an ambulance ride to the psychiatric ER!), etc. I want to put your mind at ease. Since you're at the beginning of the "diagnostic trail", you're probably reading tons of stuff and getting at least a little nervous (most likely considering slapping yourself to see if it might releave your OWN stress! :winking:). Quite often, Aspies eventually learn to adapt and function beautifully in this big ol' world. Although they're on the dreaded spectrum, there's a lot to work with via training, therapy, intervention etc. Just wanted to brighten the picture for you! Talk to her about her feelings when your see her getting so upset. With our kids, it turned out that they couldn't differentiate between anger, frustration, fear or anxiety. They just "felt bad" or had a "bad feeling". We didn't discover this via the professionals by the way (I'm on a "I hate the psychiatric world" binge right now), it was being diligent and alert to what was impacting them at the moment. One of the best pieces of advise that I can give you is: try to identify the trigger - What set her off? What was going on that may have gotten under her skin? This way you can decide if it's a good idea to avoid something (sensory - a certain sound, fabrics, visual stims, etc.) OR if it's gradual tolerance (another child that has some sort of issue) OR "let's find a way to deal with it (certain loud noises would trigger difficult child 2 to run like H-E-double hockey sticks - so we tried different things to do if something startled him) OR "beat them at their own game" (difficult child 1 would rock on the back legs of his chair so far that it scared the prunes out of his teacher - I got a "travel pillow" that we tucked behind his backside so he couldn't slide back enough in the chair to tilt it). The hard part is that teachers, administrators etc. RARELY have to opportunity to identify triggers, whether it be too big a class, or another child having issues, etc. Keep in mind - it's hard, but not impossible! Beth [/QUOTE]
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