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<blockquote data-quote="gardengirl1958" data-source="post: 681465" data-attributes="member: 19929"><p>So true! Just had that experience this weekend-again! I'm so, so different from my extended family. They have ostracized my family from being part of the extended family at all. Out of the blue, a niece contacted me to be friends on Facebook. She honestly knew nothing (legitimate) about me. She only knew my siblings' wrong perspectives. No one had taken the time to get to know me but I took many years getting to know them. They call my family "freaks". As she talked to me, I realized that I could not say ANYTHING at all because they live so.... Um...... Materialistically? I don't have a word for it. Very "worldly" not with much thought to what they do or what they say, spending money on luxuries and fortunes in having perfect bodies. Very plastic. So my "freakishness" makes me so different that whatever I say, to them, it reinforces their perspectives. I am very organic and relationship oriented. I esteem authenticity and transparency. We have taken a lot of abuse from all of them so we long ago left their company (after we were excommunicated for being freaks). </p><p></p><p>Well, my family and I have finally built a nice life for us - filled with Aspies. And our "normal" really looks very early American with those kinds of values. We take rules and laws seriously and we live modestly because we have to always be compensating for our individual issue needs. We look to most of our Aspie friends as if we are a stable family. Seriously! Isn't that funny? Because of our "issues" we have to be very disciplined with our days. Unlike my extended family whatsoever. </p><p></p><p>Well........ her comments sent me into a tailspin this weekend reminding me of how unacceptable I always was in my childhood family. So, so damaging. For the whole weekend, I was wrestling with all those lies that attack my soul (I believe from Satan) and who I know myself to be today. (A person who has value and purpose.) So, as you said, I went out into my "places" where I excel and just started doing what I do well while I worked through the rejection of my extended family and my truth about myself. It occurred to me that my truth will never, ever be known in my family - not ever. The injustice was making me crazy. But there is no fighting that and what would be the point?</p><p></p><p>I agree Insane - do what you do best and enjoy your life for what it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gardengirl1958, post: 681465, member: 19929"] So true! Just had that experience this weekend-again! I'm so, so different from my extended family. They have ostracized my family from being part of the extended family at all. Out of the blue, a niece contacted me to be friends on Facebook. She honestly knew nothing (legitimate) about me. She only knew my siblings' wrong perspectives. No one had taken the time to get to know me but I took many years getting to know them. They call my family "freaks". As she talked to me, I realized that I could not say ANYTHING at all because they live so.... Um...... Materialistically? I don't have a word for it. Very "worldly" not with much thought to what they do or what they say, spending money on luxuries and fortunes in having perfect bodies. Very plastic. So my "freakishness" makes me so different that whatever I say, to them, it reinforces their perspectives. I am very organic and relationship oriented. I esteem authenticity and transparency. We have taken a lot of abuse from all of them so we long ago left their company (after we were excommunicated for being freaks). Well, my family and I have finally built a nice life for us - filled with Aspies. And our "normal" really looks very early American with those kinds of values. We take rules and laws seriously and we live modestly because we have to always be compensating for our individual issue needs. We look to most of our Aspie friends as if we are a stable family. Seriously! Isn't that funny? Because of our "issues" we have to be very disciplined with our days. Unlike my extended family whatsoever. Well........ her comments sent me into a tailspin this weekend reminding me of how unacceptable I always was in my childhood family. So, so damaging. For the whole weekend, I was wrestling with all those lies that attack my soul (I believe from Satan) and who I know myself to be today. (A person who has value and purpose.) So, as you said, I went out into my "places" where I excel and just started doing what I do well while I worked through the rejection of my extended family and my truth about myself. It occurred to me that my truth will never, ever be known in my family - not ever. The injustice was making me crazy. But there is no fighting that and what would be the point? I agree Insane - do what you do best and enjoy your life for what it is. [/QUOTE]
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