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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 604048" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. I'm so sorry things are this rough for you right now, but you have come to the right place.</p><p></p><p>The first thing you need to believe is that your husband and daughter are both out of your control. You can only control one person and that is yourself. And, believe it or not, you can have a rich, fulfilling life even while your loved ones choose to self-destruct and create havoc. You can choose to stand apart from their drama and to detach. I really, really recommend going to a Narc-Anon or Al-Anon meeting, even if you aren't religious. The meetings give you real life people to talk to and to listen to and the 12 Steps will help you take care of the one person you CAN take care of...YOU!!! Again, you do not need to have a particular religion or even have any at all. The main message is to detach from the sick people in your life and to learn how to make your own life happy in spite of them.</p><p></p><p>If you don't like the idea of 12 Step, I'd seek therapy anyway and I highly recommend reading "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie. I'm sure other people will be here tomorrow, maybe even tonight. You can vent all you like here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 604048, member: 1550"] Hi there. I'm so sorry things are this rough for you right now, but you have come to the right place. The first thing you need to believe is that your husband and daughter are both out of your control. You can only control one person and that is yourself. And, believe it or not, you can have a rich, fulfilling life even while your loved ones choose to self-destruct and create havoc. You can choose to stand apart from their drama and to detach. I really, really recommend going to a Narc-Anon or Al-Anon meeting, even if you aren't religious. The meetings give you real life people to talk to and to listen to and the 12 Steps will help you take care of the one person you CAN take care of...YOU!!! Again, you do not need to have a particular religion or even have any at all. The main message is to detach from the sick people in your life and to learn how to make your own life happy in spite of them. If you don't like the idea of 12 Step, I'd seek therapy anyway and I highly recommend reading "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie. I'm sure other people will be here tomorrow, maybe even tonight. You can vent all you like here. [/QUOTE]
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