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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 158180" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm glad Janet raised the possibility that difficult child may have got the therapist wrong. That's not necessarily saying that difficult child lied, but he could have simply heard what he wanted to hear. on the other hand, from what you say this therapist does sound a bit of a worry and difficult child may not have been so far off the mark.</p><p></p><p>On your other thread I was urging you to be firm and take back control. However, a couple of things here - </p><p>First, it is really good that he is talking to you as frankly as he seems to be here, about how the medications make him feel as well as about his emotions. That is very important, given your concerns that the medications may not be right for him in a number of possible ways. </p><p>Second, although I did say on the other thread that you need to be in control, it IS okay to tell him you don't have all the answers. But it is still good he talked to you about it because together you can work at finding the answers.</p><p></p><p>Round about this age, kids begin to work out how fallible adults really are. He's already caught you and therapist in a conflict of information (as far as he interprets it). Maybe at this point you need to find independent information that you can point to, to explain just where you get your opinions on drinking and drug-taking interacting with his condition or his medications. Find a reference online maybe. Or perhaps challenge the therapist to come up with some reference to justify HIS position. Then pass this on to difficult child - he needs to be kept in the loop regarding his own condition and its management. If that means admitting to him that there are still question marks - so be it. You think he hasn't already worked out for himself that things are a bit confused right now? Having him on board as an active team member in his own health management could be a way to get his cooperation.</p><p></p><p>I really hope you can find a path out of this maze, it must be so confusing for you right now.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 158180, member: 1991"] I'm glad Janet raised the possibility that difficult child may have got the therapist wrong. That's not necessarily saying that difficult child lied, but he could have simply heard what he wanted to hear. on the other hand, from what you say this therapist does sound a bit of a worry and difficult child may not have been so far off the mark. On your other thread I was urging you to be firm and take back control. However, a couple of things here - First, it is really good that he is talking to you as frankly as he seems to be here, about how the medications make him feel as well as about his emotions. That is very important, given your concerns that the medications may not be right for him in a number of possible ways. Second, although I did say on the other thread that you need to be in control, it IS okay to tell him you don't have all the answers. But it is still good he talked to you about it because together you can work at finding the answers. Round about this age, kids begin to work out how fallible adults really are. He's already caught you and therapist in a conflict of information (as far as he interprets it). Maybe at this point you need to find independent information that you can point to, to explain just where you get your opinions on drinking and drug-taking interacting with his condition or his medications. Find a reference online maybe. Or perhaps challenge the therapist to come up with some reference to justify HIS position. Then pass this on to difficult child - he needs to be kept in the loop regarding his own condition and its management. If that means admitting to him that there are still question marks - so be it. You think he hasn't already worked out for himself that things are a bit confused right now? Having him on board as an active team member in his own health management could be a way to get his cooperation. I really hope you can find a path out of this maze, it must be so confusing for you right now. Marg [/QUOTE]
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