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<blockquote data-quote="ANewLife4Me" data-source="post: 765272" data-attributes="member: 32799"><p>This hurts me to read healinginside. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😢" title="Crying face :cry:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f622.png" data-shortname=":cry:" /> You are an amazing person you know this right? <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="🤗" title="Hugging face :hugging:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f917.png" data-shortname=":hugging:" /><img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="🤗" title="Hugging face :hugging:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f917.png" data-shortname=":hugging:" /> As I mentioned in another thread, even parents who did all of the right things have the same results. It proves the point that not you, but they are the ones who made those choices. I understand how you’re feeling, the shame. My husband did not want to tell his family about our daughter being in jail, did not want them thinking we were to blame. But you know??? his family is actually supporting us, told him if she wants to act a fool she has to pay the price. His Dad especially is concerned for our safety and is begging us to move before she gets out.</p><p></p><p>I freely tell anyone my daughter is in jail, not looking for sympathy from them but because I am being honest…with myself. I am overweight and have come to find people judge you for EVERYTHING! I hold my head high and wear those shorts in summer and a bathing suit to the pool. The moral here is you do not have to please everyone, only YOU. My Mom told me a story….There was a black man who was walking down the street in her neighborhood. He was dressed so fine in a white suit, he was happy and confident as he walked on. People STILL took a double take, they still laughed and whispered. People who judge others are actually the ones who have issues in their own lives and judging is a temporary way of getting out of their own pain.</p><p></p><p>So dear friend, grieve the sadness that he has gotten to this point of being in jail. It’s quite the shock. But, I also beg of you to put it aside and get back to life! Your daughter deserves this tremendous accomplishment in her life and needs you acting a proud parent yelling, clapping and possibly screaming as she walks on that stage to accept her diploma. Make sure to take MANY pictures of you and she, family all SMILING! <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😊" title="Smiling face with smiling eyes :blush:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f60a.png" data-shortname=":blush:" /> I have learned this recently as my son I put off, we went out to dinner together again, just he and I this time…and had an amazing time! The weight I carried from his sister took its toll on everyone. Is it easy? We know it’s the hardest thing we will ever do! But, we are cheating ourselves of life, of these great moments, to keep a pain inside going for a child who does not want to change. You be the change! Help her pick out a class ring and her cap and gown. Take her out to lunch, a mother and daughter day. Go get both your hair and nails done….all with smiles on your faces and laughter in your hearts. I will pray for you dear for strength! <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="🙏" title="Folded hands :pray:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f64f.png" data-shortname=":pray:" /><img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="🤗" title="Hugging face :hugging:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f917.png" data-shortname=":hugging:" /><img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="🤗" title="Hugging face :hugging:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f917.png" data-shortname=":hugging:" /><img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ANewLife4Me, post: 765272, member: 32799"] This hurts me to read healinginside. 😢 You are an amazing person you know this right? 🤗🤗 As I mentioned in another thread, even parents who did all of the right things have the same results. It proves the point that not you, but they are the ones who made those choices. I understand how you’re feeling, the shame. My husband did not want to tell his family about our daughter being in jail, did not want them thinking we were to blame. But you know??? his family is actually supporting us, told him if she wants to act a fool she has to pay the price. His Dad especially is concerned for our safety and is begging us to move before she gets out. I freely tell anyone my daughter is in jail, not looking for sympathy from them but because I am being honest…with myself. I am overweight and have come to find people judge you for EVERYTHING! I hold my head high and wear those shorts in summer and a bathing suit to the pool. The moral here is you do not have to please everyone, only YOU. My Mom told me a story….There was a black man who was walking down the street in her neighborhood. He was dressed so fine in a white suit, he was happy and confident as he walked on. People STILL took a double take, they still laughed and whispered. People who judge others are actually the ones who have issues in their own lives and judging is a temporary way of getting out of their own pain. So dear friend, grieve the sadness that he has gotten to this point of being in jail. It’s quite the shock. But, I also beg of you to put it aside and get back to life! Your daughter deserves this tremendous accomplishment in her life and needs you acting a proud parent yelling, clapping and possibly screaming as she walks on that stage to accept her diploma. Make sure to take MANY pictures of you and she, family all SMILING! 😊 I have learned this recently as my son I put off, we went out to dinner together again, just he and I this time…and had an amazing time! The weight I carried from his sister took its toll on everyone. Is it easy? We know it’s the hardest thing we will ever do! But, we are cheating ourselves of life, of these great moments, to keep a pain inside going for a child who does not want to change. You be the change! Help her pick out a class ring and her cap and gown. Take her out to lunch, a mother and daughter day. Go get both your hair and nails done….all with smiles on your faces and laughter in your hearts. I will pray for you dear for strength! 🙏🤗🤗❤️ [/QUOTE]
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