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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 481440" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p>Consequences are important, not the ones - if you do this , this is what is going to happen to YOU - they just each kids to lie, not get caught , not to trust adults - so which consequences are important - showing kids how their behavior impacts on others and providing the framework so that they will be able to engage in the moral act of restitution in an autonomous way. If a kid knows that there is a consequence coming, he will shut down and we don't have any chance of engaging in collaborative problem solving or helping the kid to ask - what type of person do I want to be . Consequences is Plan A - collaborative problem solving - Plan B - they don't mix. Dr Greene has been emphazing the importance of not discussing behavior with kids - rather focusing on concerns - the kids concerns first , then our concerns . Consequences focus on behavior - it is behavior modification - what our kids need is help with lagging skills,their cognitive deficits. CPS is a cognitive solution to kids difficulties.</p><p></p><p>I suggest to read my link - running in the hallway from my first response. Try to think of the scenario where the teacher reprimanded the kid and then consequenced him = death blow to cps.</p><p></p><p>Allan</p><p>Parenting is Learning</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 481440, member: 10"] Hi, Consequences are important, not the ones - if you do this , this is what is going to happen to YOU - they just each kids to lie, not get caught , not to trust adults - so which consequences are important - showing kids how their behavior impacts on others and providing the framework so that they will be able to engage in the moral act of restitution in an autonomous way. If a kid knows that there is a consequence coming, he will shut down and we don't have any chance of engaging in collaborative problem solving or helping the kid to ask - what type of person do I want to be . Consequences is Plan A - collaborative problem solving - Plan B - they don't mix. Dr Greene has been emphazing the importance of not discussing behavior with kids - rather focusing on concerns - the kids concerns first , then our concerns . Consequences focus on behavior - it is behavior modification - what our kids need is help with lagging skills,their cognitive deficits. CPS is a cognitive solution to kids difficulties. I suggest to read my link - running in the hallway from my first response. Try to think of the scenario where the teacher reprimanded the kid and then consequenced him = death blow to cps. Allan Parenting is Learning [/QUOTE]
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