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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 395375" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Hi Pam, my son is very bright and struggled mightily through many years of school. When he was in public school up through 9th grade, his teachers never could understand why he wouldn't just do what was expected of him because they knew that he was cognitively able. We now know from the staff at his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that he is extremely "stress sensitive" and that he needs to have as many stresses removed from his academic day as possible for him to perform to the best of his ability. I suspect from your recent posts that your son may be similar and that he is trying to tell you that with his actions. It may not be worth it to push him to take orchestra and continue with the violin if you want him to succeed in other parts of his academic life. </p><p></p><p>When my son was younger, we found that we needed to build in as much downtime into his schedule as possible to alleviate meltdowns. As much as it went against our values (and we didn't make the same decisions for our daughters), that meant not pushing him to attend any classes outside of the school day, including religious school and other extracurriculars that we thought important but he couldn't handle. This decision did prevent meltdowns and ease his anxiety.</p><p></p><p>There is a happy ending to this story. My son will graduate from high school and his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) program one week from today! He has a much greater understanding of his strengths and challenges and now works with himself rather than against himself. So I want you to know that there is hope as these kinds of kids grow and mature.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, Pam.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 395375, member: 2423"] Hi Pam, my son is very bright and struggled mightily through many years of school. When he was in public school up through 9th grade, his teachers never could understand why he wouldn't just do what was expected of him because they knew that he was cognitively able. We now know from the staff at his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that he is extremely "stress sensitive" and that he needs to have as many stresses removed from his academic day as possible for him to perform to the best of his ability. I suspect from your recent posts that your son may be similar and that he is trying to tell you that with his actions. It may not be worth it to push him to take orchestra and continue with the violin if you want him to succeed in other parts of his academic life. When my son was younger, we found that we needed to build in as much downtime into his schedule as possible to alleviate meltdowns. As much as it went against our values (and we didn't make the same decisions for our daughters), that meant not pushing him to attend any classes outside of the school day, including religious school and other extracurriculars that we thought important but he couldn't handle. This decision did prevent meltdowns and ease his anxiety. There is a happy ending to this story. My son will graduate from high school and his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) program one week from today! He has a much greater understanding of his strengths and challenges and now works with himself rather than against himself. So I want you to know that there is hope as these kinds of kids grow and mature. Hang in there, Pam. [/QUOTE]
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