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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 581724" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Aw, hon. This is NOT NOT NOT your fault in any way. He probably has attachment issues, which you did not cause and in fact you did everything legally possible to give him some love as a baby. But with birthmother both mentally ill, not really wanting him, and trying to kill him it makes sense in my opinion that he probably has attachment issues, which actually are exactly like antisocial personality disorder in children. Because of the lack of consistent response to their needs (such as being fed when hungry) in their very early years (think of "failuare to thrive syndrome") they simply learn, as young as infants, that they can't trust anyone but themselves so that's what they learn and it can be quite hardwired into them. Attachment therapy can help some kids. It's expensive and controversial. Regular therapy doesn't usually do beans for these types of kids. On top of all that, he could have inherited a predisposition to bipolar disorder, but he sounds more RADish to me than bipolar. </p><p></p><p>Now you need to think about yourself. These types of kids are so very difficult to raise. Have you checked to see if social services offers respite? Also, how old is your nephew? You may need to sadly put locks on all your doors and keep your valuables locked up. Does he ever rage or hurt animals or play with fire? Does he pee and poop inappropriately? We adopted a child at age eleven who was too Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and sick for a family and it became unsafe to have him with us so we kind of learned the signs of a budding sociopath. After the experience of that child, the entire family was in therapy for years!</p><p></p><p>They are good at acting charming when necessary and or when they want something. </p><p></p><p>Hugs!!! Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 581724, member: 1550"] Aw, hon. This is NOT NOT NOT your fault in any way. He probably has attachment issues, which you did not cause and in fact you did everything legally possible to give him some love as a baby. But with birthmother both mentally ill, not really wanting him, and trying to kill him it makes sense in my opinion that he probably has attachment issues, which actually are exactly like antisocial personality disorder in children. Because of the lack of consistent response to their needs (such as being fed when hungry) in their very early years (think of "failuare to thrive syndrome") they simply learn, as young as infants, that they can't trust anyone but themselves so that's what they learn and it can be quite hardwired into them. Attachment therapy can help some kids. It's expensive and controversial. Regular therapy doesn't usually do beans for these types of kids. On top of all that, he could have inherited a predisposition to bipolar disorder, but he sounds more RADish to me than bipolar. Now you need to think about yourself. These types of kids are so very difficult to raise. Have you checked to see if social services offers respite? Also, how old is your nephew? You may need to sadly put locks on all your doors and keep your valuables locked up. Does he ever rage or hurt animals or play with fire? Does he pee and poop inappropriately? We adopted a child at age eleven who was too Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and sick for a family and it became unsafe to have him with us so we kind of learned the signs of a budding sociopath. After the experience of that child, the entire family was in therapy for years! They are good at acting charming when necessary and or when they want something. Hugs!!! Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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