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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 431527" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>((((HUGS)))))</p><p></p><p>I always find myself at the end of my own rope, find ppl to vent to and lean on, and even though I didn't think it would happen, always find the strength to go on.............again. I hope venting here does that for you, but yes, try to find some real life time to give yourself a break. We all know it's easier said than done, but for parents like us it's a necessity - not a luxury.</p><p></p><p>Like you said, you really weren't asking for anything, but I'll give you my 2 cents on bullying. Go to the principal and ask specifically what the school policy is. It is the school's job to not only educate your child, but also to keep him SAFE. Make sure you let your son know what the policy is, who to report to, what information will be needed. It is REALLY hard for our kids to self advocate, so he might need help. Since he has an IEP, does he have a "go to" person someone who oversees the IEPs someone who helps them out with day to day issues, someone who he hopefully is comfortable with. If there are incidences, he can go to this person for assistance to do the official reporting. My son had such issues in middle school. At the beginning of his first year there, the VP essentially told me that "maybe my son did not belong in a normal school" Lordy, I almost jumped over his desk! The first few times we went in to report bullying, he'd be rolling his eyes, and it wasn't subtle either. By the end of the year, this man finally got to know my son - I mean REALLY know him - I couldn't believe the way he turned his attitude around. The following year when there were issues he was bending over backwards to help out my son. There is hope.</p><p></p><p>I just read your signature, and sorry, I gotta do it, no, I shouldn't, yes, I do : EDUCATE YOUR DAUGHTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</p><p></p><p>Sorry, I'm really really sorry I yelled, because I'm sure you have tried. And she's now a teen, and she knows EVERYTHING. And I know it's been rough on her too because she was never allowed to get away with that, do that etc, but we all know it's just not that simple. He looks normal, so there's nothing wrong with him. OY! I think EVERY member here has heard that at least once. Well, the reason I yelled it so loud is that when I read your signature, my heart just broke for your son. Here he is struggling to fit into a world the he is just not wired for. He gets enough negativity from the outside world, and BAM! He's getting it from his family too. The ppl that are supposed to make him feel safe and loved and ACCEPTED.</p><p></p><p> I'm laughing at myself because I want to say "try harder" to educate her, but we all know that is useless advice because it's what all those "experts" at school tell our kids. So think out of the box to get her to show at least a bit of compassion. He did not choose any of his ailments any more than those Down's kids did. The "normals" in my extended family have a very difficult time with this, and I tell them that they don't have to fully understand my kids, but they have to accept them and their different reality, and not belittle their issues. Charity begins at HOME</p><p></p><p>Stick around. You'll find more help and support here than you've dreamed possible.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 431527, member: 11965"] ((((HUGS))))) I always find myself at the end of my own rope, find ppl to vent to and lean on, and even though I didn't think it would happen, always find the strength to go on.............again. I hope venting here does that for you, but yes, try to find some real life time to give yourself a break. We all know it's easier said than done, but for parents like us it's a necessity - not a luxury. Like you said, you really weren't asking for anything, but I'll give you my 2 cents on bullying. Go to the principal and ask specifically what the school policy is. It is the school's job to not only educate your child, but also to keep him SAFE. Make sure you let your son know what the policy is, who to report to, what information will be needed. It is REALLY hard for our kids to self advocate, so he might need help. Since he has an IEP, does he have a "go to" person someone who oversees the IEPs someone who helps them out with day to day issues, someone who he hopefully is comfortable with. If there are incidences, he can go to this person for assistance to do the official reporting. My son had such issues in middle school. At the beginning of his first year there, the VP essentially told me that "maybe my son did not belong in a normal school" Lordy, I almost jumped over his desk! The first few times we went in to report bullying, he'd be rolling his eyes, and it wasn't subtle either. By the end of the year, this man finally got to know my son - I mean REALLY know him - I couldn't believe the way he turned his attitude around. The following year when there were issues he was bending over backwards to help out my son. There is hope. I just read your signature, and sorry, I gotta do it, no, I shouldn't, yes, I do : EDUCATE YOUR DAUGHTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry, I'm really really sorry I yelled, because I'm sure you have tried. And she's now a teen, and she knows EVERYTHING. And I know it's been rough on her too because she was never allowed to get away with that, do that etc, but we all know it's just not that simple. He looks normal, so there's nothing wrong with him. OY! I think EVERY member here has heard that at least once. Well, the reason I yelled it so loud is that when I read your signature, my heart just broke for your son. Here he is struggling to fit into a world the he is just not wired for. He gets enough negativity from the outside world, and BAM! He's getting it from his family too. The ppl that are supposed to make him feel safe and loved and ACCEPTED. I'm laughing at myself because I want to say "try harder" to educate her, but we all know that is useless advice because it's what all those "experts" at school tell our kids. So think out of the box to get her to show at least a bit of compassion. He did not choose any of his ailments any more than those Down's kids did. The "normals" in my extended family have a very difficult time with this, and I tell them that they don't have to fully understand my kids, but they have to accept them and their different reality, and not belittle their issues. Charity begins at HOME Stick around. You'll find more help and support here than you've dreamed possible. [/QUOTE]
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