i dont know what to do anymore. I know everyone here has similar, if not worse things going on and I shouldn't whinge, just last night I reached the end of my patience. difficult child went out with husband and brother last night and I was at home. When they got back from the park and the toy store, I asked difficult child to have a shower and he went and did it. But when I went and asked him to get out, the look I got could have melted my face off. When I asked what was wrong he started telling me to get out through gritted teeth. Trying to talk to him was a waste of time and he would only respond to husband. Anything I said or asked got a filthy look and if I pushed it he started shouting and crying and hid behind the lounge. Add to that husband having a go at me for being able to find something he couldn't and 2 yr blowing raspberries at me, I told them 'I quit' and walked away. I was away for a week recently and everyone had a great time....until I came home. The only person that was happy to see me was the 2 year old. Since then everyone has been foul and I have felt unwelcome in my own home. difficult child has a birthday coming up and I have been looking at special things to do and get him. I told husband about all of this, but he has promised difficult child something completely different. I told husband that it is on him them and that I am not having anything to do with it. I realise that might sound petty, but all I do is aggrivate everyone so to make it a nice birthday I don't think I should be involved. After that I started bawling as it really seems that difficult child and my relationship is gone. With that husband got uncomfortable and went to bed. Just now he walked in from school and threw the mail at me. I havent even seen or spoken to him today! It seems that I am the common link that makes everyone cranky so maybe the best thing to do is to walk away completely.