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<blockquote data-quote="aeroeng" data-source="post: 273088" data-attributes="member: 6557"><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Wish I could write something that would make it all better, but I can't. Several months ago difficult child tried to smash the TV. husband grabbed him and wrestled with the boy. husband did not like where it was going and called the police. difficult child had a bloody nose and would not let husband put anything on it. He actually tried to make it bleed more. So when the police got there, blood was all over the kid's shirt. difficult child tried to get husband in trouble by repeatedly saying to the police officer, "dad gave me a bloody nose". The police finally told difficult child in a clam voice to put a bag of ice on the back of his neck. Then they lectured him on how this is his parents house, his parents can do anything they want with any item in the house, and he needed to take responsibility for his own actions. The police left without any actions. (I still trembled).</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">So I think most police officers have run in with difficult teens before. Where I can not guarantee that no innocent parent was ever charged, I do believe most of the time the police officer can see through the kid. At least they have some guide lines and know what to look for. This is good because we don't want someone to be allowed to beat their kids.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">We have discovered that the less we react to his out-burst the smaller they are. We separate the kids. (I mean separate = different houses, friends, relative's church ...). We talk calm. (Use what I call the "Dave" voice from 2010. "I am sorry difficult child, I am afraid I can't do that."). Some times I have to leave as well. But without the re-action he does not accelerate.</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aeroeng, post: 273088, member: 6557"] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Wish I could write something that would make it all better, but I can't. Several months ago difficult child tried to smash the TV. husband grabbed him and wrestled with the boy. husband did not like where it was going and called the police. difficult child had a bloody nose and would not let husband put anything on it. He actually tried to make it bleed more. So when the police got there, blood was all over the kid's shirt. difficult child tried to get husband in trouble by repeatedly saying to the police officer, "dad gave me a bloody nose". The police finally told difficult child in a clam voice to put a bag of ice on the back of his neck. Then they lectured him on how this is his parents house, his parents can do anything they want with any item in the house, and he needed to take responsibility for his own actions. The police left without any actions. (I still trembled).[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]So I think most police officers have run in with difficult teens before. Where I can not guarantee that no innocent parent was ever charged, I do believe most of the time the police officer can see through the kid. At least they have some guide lines and know what to look for. This is good because we don't want someone to be allowed to beat their kids.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]We have discovered that the less we react to his out-burst the smaller they are. We separate the kids. (I mean separate = different houses, friends, relative's church ...). We talk calm. (Use what I call the "Dave" voice from 2010. "I am sorry difficult child, I am afraid I can't do that."). Some times I have to leave as well. But without the re-action he does not accelerate.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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