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At What Point is it OK to Throw in the Towel with a difficult child ?
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 471388" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>First, big hugs.</p><p></p><p>It is my personal opinion that we should be able to legally kick our kids out at 16, if for nothing else other than to teach them what REAL life is like, allow them to fend for themselves, suffer a little.</p><p></p><p>When is the right time to quit? IMVHO, it's time to quit when caring for them, worrying about them, hovering over them, and crying over them causes you to become physically, mentally, emotionally, and intellectually exhausted, to become ill, when YOU'RE life begins to spin out of control and you cannot function anymore like your normal self. And only you know when that time is.</p><p></p><p>I think we as parents will always, till the end of time, wonder if the choices we made on our kids' behalf were the best. But we must remember that we can only do our best and if we've done our best to no avail, well then, it's okay to say, "You know, I just don't know what else to do, so I'm quitting". And that can be temporary in some cases. At 16, I don't know how temporary that would be for you = by the time she's ready for your intervention she may be well over the legal age of 18 and you wouldn't have a say anyway at that point. However, always keep in mind that if you're not taking care of yourself FIRST, you're useless to take care of anyone else...self preservation and all that.</p><p></p><p>Really, big giant hugs - it's not easy to let go and not for one minute do I think any parent would let go without a lot of forethought and agony.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 471388, member: 2211"] First, big hugs. It is my personal opinion that we should be able to legally kick our kids out at 16, if for nothing else other than to teach them what REAL life is like, allow them to fend for themselves, suffer a little. When is the right time to quit? IMVHO, it's time to quit when caring for them, worrying about them, hovering over them, and crying over them causes you to become physically, mentally, emotionally, and intellectually exhausted, to become ill, when YOU'RE life begins to spin out of control and you cannot function anymore like your normal self. And only you know when that time is. I think we as parents will always, till the end of time, wonder if the choices we made on our kids' behalf were the best. But we must remember that we can only do our best and if we've done our best to no avail, well then, it's okay to say, "You know, I just don't know what else to do, so I'm quitting". And that can be temporary in some cases. At 16, I don't know how temporary that would be for you = by the time she's ready for your intervention she may be well over the legal age of 18 and you wouldn't have a say anyway at that point. However, always keep in mind that if you're not taking care of yourself FIRST, you're useless to take care of anyone else...self preservation and all that. Really, big giant hugs - it's not easy to let go and not for one minute do I think any parent would let go without a lot of forethought and agony. [/QUOTE]
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