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At What Point is it OK to Throw in the Towel with a difficult child ?
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 471394" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I think it's different for everyone. I was pretty much done by the time thank you hit 16, but I had the luxury of him being in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I will say, as "done" as I was, it was impossible for me not to get sucked back into his stuff when he started making some really dumb decisions. You see them heading for a fall and I think it's impossible to *not* try to intervene, especially at 16/17, when they're still your responsibility. Not that 18 and older was much easier... I had to learn to not ask questions (like "how are you?") because the answers always just ripped my heart out. </p><p></p><p>The bottom line though is they are going to do what they are going to do at this age, and there's just not a darn thing you can do about it. You try to minimize the impact on the rest of the family, you try to ensure she's safe... but you're dealing with- a kid who thinks she knows it all, has it all under control. She doesn't, of course, but I sure never found a way to get thank you to accept that concept. Street living showed him the light (kinda) but... gosh, that was a wicked hard lesson for him, and I still think it's only through sheer dumb luck that he survived. And it was a horrible couple of years there for husband and I, worrying about him, not knowing what he was doing but sure that it was nothing good, not knowing where he was for months at a time... agony.</p><p></p><p>Those last few years of "childhood" were by far the hardest. Noncompliant kid and your hands are tied. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 471394, member: 8"] I think it's different for everyone. I was pretty much done by the time thank you hit 16, but I had the luxury of him being in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I will say, as "done" as I was, it was impossible for me not to get sucked back into his stuff when he started making some really dumb decisions. You see them heading for a fall and I think it's impossible to *not* try to intervene, especially at 16/17, when they're still your responsibility. Not that 18 and older was much easier... I had to learn to not ask questions (like "how are you?") because the answers always just ripped my heart out. The bottom line though is they are going to do what they are going to do at this age, and there's just not a darn thing you can do about it. You try to minimize the impact on the rest of the family, you try to ensure she's safe... but you're dealing with- a kid who thinks she knows it all, has it all under control. She doesn't, of course, but I sure never found a way to get thank you to accept that concept. Street living showed him the light (kinda) but... gosh, that was a wicked hard lesson for him, and I still think it's only through sheer dumb luck that he survived. And it was a horrible couple of years there for husband and I, worrying about him, not knowing what he was doing but sure that it was nothing good, not knowing where he was for months at a time... agony. Those last few years of "childhood" were by far the hardest. Noncompliant kid and your hands are tied. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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