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At What Point is it OK to Throw in the Towel with a difficult child ?
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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 471810" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Well, here's the thing. Even when you win the battle, there are no guarantees. I fought and fought and FOUGHT for services for Youngest in high school. I followed the rules, I did everything they asked. They insisted on only gradually increasing services, wouldn't jump to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) even though I knew that was what was needed. I watched and reacted and asked for more and more help as Youngest overdosed, ran away, overdosed again, threatened herself, threatened me, engaged in dangerously permiscuous behavior, overdosed again, and on and on. I lost count of the hospitalizations. I refused to give up. I went up the chain of command, little by little, finally to the Director of Social Services, and only after I turned in a motion to relinquish my parental rights, did they finally agree to pay for and admit her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I was relieved, I was ecstatic, I thought, "finally my daughter will get the help she needs." She was so unstable at that point they told me they thought it would be at least six months beofre she got out. She was discharged in less than 4. I fought again to get her into a special therapeutic school, and I won that battle. She started the school, with the best intentions.</p><p></p><p>And in the very first week of school, she was caught skipping school and smoking pot in the parking lot. It went downhill again from there. She drank heavily, experimented with heavy drugs, skipped school more. I began to give up. I had no more energy left to fight. Five months after getting out of the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), after turning 18, she dropped out of school, just 3 months shy of graduation. Six months later, she was pregnant.</p><p></p><p>So the thing is, you fight and you fight and sometimes, even when you don't give up and win the battle and get that help? There's just no guarantee of the outcome. I have no answers, except to say that you have to do what you can live with. Ultimately, I know that by not giving up, I saved my daughter's life, and that was a good reason to keep fighting at the time. In the short-term, it was the right thing to do and I'm glad I didn't give up. Long-term is a different story. I'm having to "give up" all over again as I learn to detach and distance myself from some aspects of her life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 471810, member: 1157"] Well, here's the thing. Even when you win the battle, there are no guarantees. I fought and fought and FOUGHT for services for Youngest in high school. I followed the rules, I did everything they asked. They insisted on only gradually increasing services, wouldn't jump to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) even though I knew that was what was needed. I watched and reacted and asked for more and more help as Youngest overdosed, ran away, overdosed again, threatened herself, threatened me, engaged in dangerously permiscuous behavior, overdosed again, and on and on. I lost count of the hospitalizations. I refused to give up. I went up the chain of command, little by little, finally to the Director of Social Services, and only after I turned in a motion to relinquish my parental rights, did they finally agree to pay for and admit her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I was relieved, I was ecstatic, I thought, "finally my daughter will get the help she needs." She was so unstable at that point they told me they thought it would be at least six months beofre she got out. She was discharged in less than 4. I fought again to get her into a special therapeutic school, and I won that battle. She started the school, with the best intentions. And in the very first week of school, she was caught skipping school and smoking pot in the parking lot. It went downhill again from there. She drank heavily, experimented with heavy drugs, skipped school more. I began to give up. I had no more energy left to fight. Five months after getting out of the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), after turning 18, she dropped out of school, just 3 months shy of graduation. Six months later, she was pregnant. So the thing is, you fight and you fight and sometimes, even when you don't give up and win the battle and get that help? There's just no guarantee of the outcome. I have no answers, except to say that you have to do what you can live with. Ultimately, I know that by not giving up, I saved my daughter's life, and that was a good reason to keep fighting at the time. In the short-term, it was the right thing to do and I'm glad I didn't give up. Long-term is a different story. I'm having to "give up" all over again as I learn to detach and distance myself from some aspects of her life. [/QUOTE]
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