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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 637371" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, Crystal.</p><p>Definitely, make an appointment to have him evaluated by a neuropsychologist. That means a full day of testing at least.</p><p>Don't make an appointment with-someone who is going to look at him for 5 seconds and come up with an opinion. Ask the receptionist what kind of testing is done. Usually you can start with psychoeducational testing because schools like that. The test results and dr note should get him a 504 plan. That will allow him to "Walk around" if he is feeling stressed.</p><p>I'm guessing he walks around because he's ADHD, even if you can't see the hyper part. He's got lots of stuff going on in his head and he can't focus.</p><p>He is lying and stealing because to him, it's easier just to give into impulse and take the flak later.</p><p>He may need to go on an ADHD medication. Don't worry--if it doesn't work, it is out of his system quickly.</p><p></p><p>What sorts of discipline do you use? Spanking won't help. He won't care. It has to be something he cares about. TV? Books? Toys? Computers? Phone? Those can be taken away after he misbehaves.</p><p>Also, I had my son write notes in cursive. It kept him occupied for awhile so I could rest and have a cup of tea. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> And now his HS teachers comment that he's one of the few who knows cursive. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I would take one behavior at a time instead of lumping them all together. For example, bending back his sister's fingers. Make a no-touch rule and a punishment to go with it. If he is social, ground him to his room. If he's not social, come up with something else, maybe TV time to take away.</p><p></p><p>Does he have any problems with speech? Hygiene? Sensory issues--sounds, fabrics, lights?</p><p></p><p>What really, really makes him mad? Keep a journal of times that he is set off and what mad it happen. You will probably see a pattern.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 637371, member: 3419"] Welcome, Crystal. Definitely, make an appointment to have him evaluated by a neuropsychologist. That means a full day of testing at least. Don't make an appointment with-someone who is going to look at him for 5 seconds and come up with an opinion. Ask the receptionist what kind of testing is done. Usually you can start with psychoeducational testing because schools like that. The test results and dr note should get him a 504 plan. That will allow him to "Walk around" if he is feeling stressed. I'm guessing he walks around because he's ADHD, even if you can't see the hyper part. He's got lots of stuff going on in his head and he can't focus. He is lying and stealing because to him, it's easier just to give into impulse and take the flak later. He may need to go on an ADHD medication. Don't worry--if it doesn't work, it is out of his system quickly. What sorts of discipline do you use? Spanking won't help. He won't care. It has to be something he cares about. TV? Books? Toys? Computers? Phone? Those can be taken away after he misbehaves. Also, I had my son write notes in cursive. It kept him occupied for awhile so I could rest and have a cup of tea. :) And now his HS teachers comment that he's one of the few who knows cursive. :) I would take one behavior at a time instead of lumping them all together. For example, bending back his sister's fingers. Make a no-touch rule and a punishment to go with it. If he is social, ground him to his room. If he's not social, come up with something else, maybe TV time to take away. Does he have any problems with speech? Hygiene? Sensory issues--sounds, fabrics, lights? What really, really makes him mad? Keep a journal of times that he is set off and what mad it happen. You will probably see a pattern. [/QUOTE]
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