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<blockquote data-quote="ready2run" data-source="post: 490139" data-attributes="member: 11339"><p>if you haven't already, put him in daycare full days so you can have some peace for your other kids or at least get him a respite worker on a regular basis. they need to gain a sense of what 'normal' is like and that can only happen with him out of the house. put a child lock on his door. they make ones that can slide on the top of the door if he knows how to get the knob ones off. i had to do that. then time outs instantly (into the room) for any type of violent behaviour until he CALMS down. the time out for one minute/year of age does not work if the kid is not calm. i use my difficult child's behaviour to tell me he is ready to come off. make sure his room is safe and he can't break anything in there first because he will try for the first while. that is how i broke mine of the violence, and medications have helped as well. good luck. i also have two younger kids and it is hard. make sure to talk to the other ones and point out when your difficult child is acting out that it is NOT okay to do that, and it won't be tolerated. punishing him consistantly will start to improve his behaviour but more importantly it will keep the other kids from thinking it is okay to act out like that and copy it. they look up to him as an older sibling to set an example for him and that will be a huge problem for you in years to come. it will also be helpful to them to tell them that 'he is not thinking right' or something like that when he gets out of control. the 2 1/2 year old is old enough to start understanding that, especially if he gets that his brother is behaving poorly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ready2run, post: 490139, member: 11339"] if you haven't already, put him in daycare full days so you can have some peace for your other kids or at least get him a respite worker on a regular basis. they need to gain a sense of what 'normal' is like and that can only happen with him out of the house. put a child lock on his door. they make ones that can slide on the top of the door if he knows how to get the knob ones off. i had to do that. then time outs instantly (into the room) for any type of violent behaviour until he CALMS down. the time out for one minute/year of age does not work if the kid is not calm. i use my difficult child's behaviour to tell me he is ready to come off. make sure his room is safe and he can't break anything in there first because he will try for the first while. that is how i broke mine of the violence, and medications have helped as well. good luck. i also have two younger kids and it is hard. make sure to talk to the other ones and point out when your difficult child is acting out that it is NOT okay to do that, and it won't be tolerated. punishing him consistantly will start to improve his behaviour but more importantly it will keep the other kids from thinking it is okay to act out like that and copy it. they look up to him as an older sibling to set an example for him and that will be a huge problem for you in years to come. it will also be helpful to them to tell them that 'he is not thinking right' or something like that when he gets out of control. the 2 1/2 year old is old enough to start understanding that, especially if he gets that his brother is behaving poorly. [/QUOTE]
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