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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 542627"><p>I empathize with worrying that your difficult child feels unloved/unwanted. I swore to my then newborn son that I would love him forever & unconditionally. And I do and I always will. But for now, it is from afar. </p><p></p><p>I can't make him whole. I can't fix him or our fractured relationship. God knows, I've tried everything. And mostly, my efforts have made things worse, have hurt ME more. Because, trying to get thru to him over and over again, trying to love him enough for both of us, begging him to turn his life around? It handed him the power in our relationship. Which empowered him to be even more of a jerk.</p><p></p><p>I hate that my son is out, I hate that my family is fractured. Every day, I think about it and I wonder if I could have done something differently. But I don't miss the chaos he brought with him, the walking on eggshells, the constant worry, the "what if/is he ok/when or will he be home?" dialogue that played on a loop inside my head when he was out at night.</p><p></p><p>I love this quote from a mom of a difficult child who was out of the house to parts unknown "Everday I wake up with the urgent need to DO SOMETHING (to fix it) and then I realize the emptiness just has to be..."</p><p></p><p>You've done everything you can plus more. You can't fix her life. It's time to claim your own life. Stay strong, you are doing the right thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 542627"] I empathize with worrying that your difficult child feels unloved/unwanted. I swore to my then newborn son that I would love him forever & unconditionally. And I do and I always will. But for now, it is from afar. I can't make him whole. I can't fix him or our fractured relationship. God knows, I've tried everything. And mostly, my efforts have made things worse, have hurt ME more. Because, trying to get thru to him over and over again, trying to love him enough for both of us, begging him to turn his life around? It handed him the power in our relationship. Which empowered him to be even more of a jerk. I hate that my son is out, I hate that my family is fractured. Every day, I think about it and I wonder if I could have done something differently. But I don't miss the chaos he brought with him, the walking on eggshells, the constant worry, the "what if/is he ok/when or will he be home?" dialogue that played on a loop inside my head when he was out at night. I love this quote from a mom of a difficult child who was out of the house to parts unknown "Everday I wake up with the urgent need to DO SOMETHING (to fix it) and then I realize the emptiness just has to be..." You've done everything you can plus more. You can't fix her life. It's time to claim your own life. Stay strong, you are doing the right thing. [/QUOTE]
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