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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 709721" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Welcome. My son who is 28 is also mentally ill which he tries to manage with marijuana. I am glad you are here and hope you keep posting.</p><p></p><p>I too believe you did right to call the police. Not only is it that you should not be threatened or harassed. It is best for your son and her too, to get the situation under control. Their only chance is accountability for their actions. To tolerate the intolerable is to enable them.</p><p></p><p>I know how hard it is. But mental illness is not an excuse to live badly. I know many mentally ill people who find a way to stay off drugs. I agree with your husband.</p><p></p><p>All of us need help through this. Whether Al Anon or Coda or personal therapy. We need hobbies and friends, and diversions. If we do not have these we get sucked into the vacuum cleaner and come to believe that their life is our own. This is one thing you can do: you can not climb into the vacuum cleaner. By having a rich and full life of your own, that you love, and that you own, you will sustain yourself. It is a personal choice.</p><p></p><p>I know it feels like you may not have a choice. You do. If we allow ourselves to be destroyed, we are giving consent.</p><p></p><p>It does not help your son that you are consumed by his challenges. They are his to own and to deal with. Their resolution will define him as a person. That he does not resolve them, by the same token, cannot define you and your life unless you let it.</p><p></p><p>None of this is easy. Not any part of it.</p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 709721, member: 18958"] Welcome. My son who is 28 is also mentally ill which he tries to manage with marijuana. I am glad you are here and hope you keep posting. I too believe you did right to call the police. Not only is it that you should not be threatened or harassed. It is best for your son and her too, to get the situation under control. Their only chance is accountability for their actions. To tolerate the intolerable is to enable them. I know how hard it is. But mental illness is not an excuse to live badly. I know many mentally ill people who find a way to stay off drugs. I agree with your husband. All of us need help through this. Whether Al Anon or Coda or personal therapy. We need hobbies and friends, and diversions. If we do not have these we get sucked into the vacuum cleaner and come to believe that their life is our own. This is one thing you can do: you can not climb into the vacuum cleaner. By having a rich and full life of your own, that you love, and that you own, you will sustain yourself. It is a personal choice. I know it feels like you may not have a choice. You do. If we allow ourselves to be destroyed, we are giving consent. It does not help your son that you are consumed by his challenges. They are his to own and to deal with. Their resolution will define him as a person. That he does not resolve them, by the same token, cannot define you and your life unless you let it. None of this is easy. Not any part of it. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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