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<blockquote data-quote="RainyDayTx" data-source="post: 758200" data-attributes="member: 25661"><p>Thank you for the links. I will pass them onto her. I agree that he does need more professional help. She currently takes them to a psychiatrist who only provides medications and has in-home counseling, but it does not seem to do any good. Over a year ago, I took the time to complete what seemed like 50 pages of paperwork to get both him & his sister into the psychiatric at Tx Children's, with her permission of course, hoping that they would be better suited to help. Mom then changed her mind because she did not want to wait the six months to get them in. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It is limited & I understand and accept that. But I do not think that Mom does not fully understand/accept that they have put me in the middle. The kids are acting up, she calls me. The girl is upset, she calls me. It seems as if everything falls back on to me. Mom is 70 and is not in the best health. So I have no choice but to go to help and check on her. This makes it extremely hard if not impossible for me to limit contact. </p><p></p><p>I am concerned for all of them. I do not want to see anything negative happen to anyone. Especially if it were preventable.</p><p></p><p>I have debated over telling her that she will need to remove me as guardian. I will cause a fallout though. One of the problems, for me, it that "dealing" with them causes so much stress and anxiety that I may need to go back to taking medication again. It even puts stress on my marriage. Also a family member who does not have much contact with them will call me and ask what is going on and express concern about Kiddo's "stability" after they visit or Mom calls her.</p><p></p><p>It is doubtful that she will be open to posting on here. I love her to bits but she is fairly closed minded and set in her ways. She also despises being told different that what she already believes and has a very difficult time changing. The current counselors that go to the house do not seem to help anything from what I see and am being told. But they have become buddies with mom & will even go out to lunch or just for a car ride.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Their regular pediatrician does know there are issues, but she has her hands tied from what I have been told. The psychiatrist does not even see either child in person, he just listens to Mom or the counselors and goes from there. Mom has depression issues & is probably bi-polar, I'm not sure about their bio-mom's (my sister) mental health or if any drugs or alcohol were used. Both Kiddo & his sister, they are twins, were very very tiny when born. But I was living my own life at that point and was not really involved. </p><p></p><p>Step-dad/Grandpa. It sounds very odd but, he was my step-dad & the kids step-grandpa then turned adoptive parent. Because of the adoption I constantly go back and forth between calling him first name (we did not get along too well), or grandpa or dad, when speaking to or about the kids. Its all the same person.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RainyDayTx, post: 758200, member: 25661"] Thank you for the links. I will pass them onto her. I agree that he does need more professional help. She currently takes them to a psychiatrist who only provides medications and has in-home counseling, but it does not seem to do any good. Over a year ago, I took the time to complete what seemed like 50 pages of paperwork to get both him & his sister into the psychiatric at Tx Children's, with her permission of course, hoping that they would be better suited to help. Mom then changed her mind because she did not want to wait the six months to get them in. It is limited & I understand and accept that. But I do not think that Mom does not fully understand/accept that they have put me in the middle. The kids are acting up, she calls me. The girl is upset, she calls me. It seems as if everything falls back on to me. Mom is 70 and is not in the best health. So I have no choice but to go to help and check on her. This makes it extremely hard if not impossible for me to limit contact. I am concerned for all of them. I do not want to see anything negative happen to anyone. Especially if it were preventable. I have debated over telling her that she will need to remove me as guardian. I will cause a fallout though. One of the problems, for me, it that "dealing" with them causes so much stress and anxiety that I may need to go back to taking medication again. It even puts stress on my marriage. Also a family member who does not have much contact with them will call me and ask what is going on and express concern about Kiddo's "stability" after they visit or Mom calls her. It is doubtful that she will be open to posting on here. I love her to bits but she is fairly closed minded and set in her ways. She also despises being told different that what she already believes and has a very difficult time changing. The current counselors that go to the house do not seem to help anything from what I see and am being told. But they have become buddies with mom & will even go out to lunch or just for a car ride. Their regular pediatrician does know there are issues, but she has her hands tied from what I have been told. The psychiatrist does not even see either child in person, he just listens to Mom or the counselors and goes from there. Mom has depression issues & is probably bi-polar, I'm not sure about their bio-mom's (my sister) mental health or if any drugs or alcohol were used. Both Kiddo & his sister, they are twins, were very very tiny when born. But I was living my own life at that point and was not really involved. Step-dad/Grandpa. It sounds very odd but, he was my step-dad & the kids step-grandpa then turned adoptive parent. Because of the adoption I constantly go back and forth between calling him first name (we did not get along too well), or grandpa or dad, when speaking to or about the kids. Its all the same person. [/QUOTE]
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