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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 682311" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Wow, my heart reslly hurts for you on the attachment issue, sweet ksm. Adoptive parents and those who take on stepchildren who had early lack of nurturing and in utero trauma are never warned. We are not educated about attachment or what to do about it. And most mental health professionals dont understand it, don't diagnose it and give our beloved kids diagnoses and medications that don't complrtely work because attachment is not addressed.</p><p></p><p>I believe every adoptive parent who takes on a beloved child who is not an infant (and maybe even infants) need to have this knowledge so that we can do our best parenting for our children. Not all adopted kids have attachment problems. I have three who don't. I had two who did. I had no idea. In this case ignorance is not bliss.</p><p></p><p>Ksm, your story with your children is not finished. It is not unheard of for children to suddenly realize how much they are loved and to love back as adults. I've read a good book written by an adopted young man who had attachment disorder and he explains how he felt and why he did such defiant, hurtftlful things. It also explains when he started to attach and why.</p><p></p><p>I think the book, on amazon, is called "detach" and the authors first name us Jesse. Its not hard to find. Put "attachment disorder" in the amazon book or kindle search.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are hurting. I have stood in your shoes and wish you a good ending. Its not over yet. Big hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 682311, member: 1550"] Wow, my heart reslly hurts for you on the attachment issue, sweet ksm. Adoptive parents and those who take on stepchildren who had early lack of nurturing and in utero trauma are never warned. We are not educated about attachment or what to do about it. And most mental health professionals dont understand it, don't diagnose it and give our beloved kids diagnoses and medications that don't complrtely work because attachment is not addressed. I believe every adoptive parent who takes on a beloved child who is not an infant (and maybe even infants) need to have this knowledge so that we can do our best parenting for our children. Not all adopted kids have attachment problems. I have three who don't. I had two who did. I had no idea. In this case ignorance is not bliss. Ksm, your story with your children is not finished. It is not unheard of for children to suddenly realize how much they are loved and to love back as adults. I've read a good book written by an adopted young man who had attachment disorder and he explains how he felt and why he did such defiant, hurtftlful things. It also explains when he started to attach and why. I think the book, on amazon, is called "detach" and the authors first name us Jesse. Its not hard to find. Put "attachment disorder" in the amazon book or kindle search. I am so sorry you are hurting. I have stood in your shoes and wish you a good ending. Its not over yet. Big hugs. [/QUOTE]
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