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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 9313" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>"difficult child wishes everyone could read a manual written she has written about herself so we all could comply to what she wants. difficult child has always been a demanding child"</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>If you look at this from a different angle than her being "needy"- this is really not so bad or unusual, don't we ALL want people to understand us? I think we think with understanding comes the other warm fuzzy happy feelings we all need to continue to go on. </p><p></p><p>Someone above said something about cutting to be able to reassure ones self they CAN feel......(I think thats what someone said?) ANd I just wanted to say- yes......that is also another reason to cut. SOmetimes I would detach or disassociate or disengage myself from feeling when things would get to be more than I could handle, and then....it would kind of be like I could not get the emotions back again after I had "turned them off" and cutting seemed to bring a lil pain and help me reconnect with feeling emotion again. It also seemed to work similarly when I felt others had shut me out....or ignored me? I would start to get this niggling fear that I was ......invisible? then I would get this irrational feeling of ??? not being real or something. Cutting helped me reassure myself I really was real. (and not a figment of my own imagination or something)</p><p></p><p>"I don't know what my daughter has suffered to trigger dealing with her pain like this" </p><p>For your dtr, it is possible just the battle of being alive and coping with her disabilities is the trigger. It is how she percieves the world around her. That could be all the trauma it takes. As for figuring out that cutting makes you "feel better" I amnot sure how we ever come to think of it, maybe cuz of when we do get hurt by accident, it sparks some little thing inside us? Who ever thought of slapping the face of a hysterical person to calm them down and bring them back to reason? Maybe it is a similar thing? </p><p></p><p>"I don't know how to discuss this problem with difficult child. When husband asked her about it last night when he seen the cuts she grinned at him (she always grins when she is busted). How do you talk to a difficult child who has impaired brain functioning & judgment plus severe Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD)"</p><p>The grin when approached with a topic that is uncomfortable is not that unusual. It could be a nervous reaction, incongruent to how she is feeling inside. Godness how I used to frustrate my therapist when she would try to talk with me and I would start to giggle-----becuz it was giggle or sob and I did not WANT to sob cuz I was SO afraid I might never stop once I started.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 9313, member: 1697"] "difficult child wishes everyone could read a manual written she has written about herself so we all could comply to what she wants. difficult child has always been a demanding child" If you look at this from a different angle than her being "needy"- this is really not so bad or unusual, don't we ALL want people to understand us? I think we think with understanding comes the other warm fuzzy happy feelings we all need to continue to go on. Someone above said something about cutting to be able to reassure ones self they CAN feel......(I think thats what someone said?) ANd I just wanted to say- yes......that is also another reason to cut. SOmetimes I would detach or disassociate or disengage myself from feeling when things would get to be more than I could handle, and then....it would kind of be like I could not get the emotions back again after I had "turned them off" and cutting seemed to bring a lil pain and help me reconnect with feeling emotion again. It also seemed to work similarly when I felt others had shut me out....or ignored me? I would start to get this niggling fear that I was ......invisible? then I would get this irrational feeling of ??? not being real or something. Cutting helped me reassure myself I really was real. (and not a figment of my own imagination or something) "I don't know what my daughter has suffered to trigger dealing with her pain like this" For your dtr, it is possible just the battle of being alive and coping with her disabilities is the trigger. It is how she percieves the world around her. That could be all the trauma it takes. As for figuring out that cutting makes you "feel better" I amnot sure how we ever come to think of it, maybe cuz of when we do get hurt by accident, it sparks some little thing inside us? Who ever thought of slapping the face of a hysterical person to calm them down and bring them back to reason? Maybe it is a similar thing? "I don't know how to discuss this problem with difficult child. When husband asked her about it last night when he seen the cuts she grinned at him (she always grins when she is busted). How do you talk to a difficult child who has impaired brain functioning & judgment plus severe Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD)" The grin when approached with a topic that is uncomfortable is not that unusual. It could be a nervous reaction, incongruent to how she is feeling inside. Godness how I used to frustrate my therapist when she would try to talk with me and I would start to giggle-----becuz it was giggle or sob and I did not WANT to sob cuz I was SO afraid I might never stop once I started. [/QUOTE]
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