Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Autism and Asperger's
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 200704" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Welcome back. It's difficult to answer your query about autism and Asperger's without knowing specifically what you want to know. I can tell you a little about our experiences though.</p><p></p><p>For our boys, the diagnosis of ADHD either came well before, or was given at the same time. Some people now think that ADHD is also part of the autism spectrum. </p><p></p><p>Autism used to be seen as a devastating diagnosis, one in which the children could never feel nay love or other emotion, could never connect with anyone and could never learn. This is just so far wrong, it's incredible. Our kids CAN learn, often very well. But they often need to learn in a different way. They say you have to learn to crawl before you can walk - not necessarily, with our kids.</p><p></p><p>In my experience - the kids themselves seem to instinctively know what they need and will go after it with a single-minded ruthlessness. But they DO feel emotion, often very keenly. We don't always recognise their emotional responses though, because they don't always show their emotions in ways we recognise.</p><p></p><p>They can be very smart, often more than you realise. Like an iceberg - the vast bulk is beneath the surface. There can be huge issues with things like sensory integration, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), difficulty changing tasks, special interest areas which absorb them totally. These interests CAN change. </p><p></p><p>To get a bit of an idea, go to <a href="http://www.childbrain.com" target="_blank">www.childbrain.com</a> and look for their online Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire. It's not officially diagnostic but it can give you some clear ideas of a lot of the characteristics you find in autism. Sometimes what they do may seem mindless or irrational - it never is. There is always a good reason (that makes sense to them) for what they choose to do and how they choose to do it.</p><p></p><p>They have some wonderful qualities - loving, loyal, honest, law-abiding (in their own way). We often misunderstand and see some of their behaviour as rude, insolent, defiant - when it's not intended that way at all. They do tend to display the behaviour that is modelled for them by others; so if you parent your children by control, by using sternness and strictness, then your autistic or Aspie child is likely to talk to you and his teachers in exactly the same way. They do not cope well with sudden change and often need to be carefully prepared for it.</p><p></p><p>Anything else - please ask. </p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 200704, member: 1991"] Welcome back. It's difficult to answer your query about autism and Asperger's without knowing specifically what you want to know. I can tell you a little about our experiences though. For our boys, the diagnosis of ADHD either came well before, or was given at the same time. Some people now think that ADHD is also part of the autism spectrum. Autism used to be seen as a devastating diagnosis, one in which the children could never feel nay love or other emotion, could never connect with anyone and could never learn. This is just so far wrong, it's incredible. Our kids CAN learn, often very well. But they often need to learn in a different way. They say you have to learn to crawl before you can walk - not necessarily, with our kids. In my experience - the kids themselves seem to instinctively know what they need and will go after it with a single-minded ruthlessness. But they DO feel emotion, often very keenly. We don't always recognise their emotional responses though, because they don't always show their emotions in ways we recognise. They can be very smart, often more than you realise. Like an iceberg - the vast bulk is beneath the surface. There can be huge issues with things like sensory integration, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), difficulty changing tasks, special interest areas which absorb them totally. These interests CAN change. To get a bit of an idea, go to [url]www.childbrain.com[/url] and look for their online Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire. It's not officially diagnostic but it can give you some clear ideas of a lot of the characteristics you find in autism. Sometimes what they do may seem mindless or irrational - it never is. There is always a good reason (that makes sense to them) for what they choose to do and how they choose to do it. They have some wonderful qualities - loving, loyal, honest, law-abiding (in their own way). We often misunderstand and see some of their behaviour as rude, insolent, defiant - when it's not intended that way at all. They do tend to display the behaviour that is modelled for them by others; so if you parent your children by control, by using sternness and strictness, then your autistic or Aspie child is likely to talk to you and his teachers in exactly the same way. They do not cope well with sudden change and often need to be carefully prepared for it. Anything else - please ask. Marg [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Autism and Asperger's
Top