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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 367479" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have a spectrum son. They get frustrated very easily and do not transition well, therefore it is necessary to change our expectations that they will ever be able to transition without a lot of gentle warning in advance or do things new ways because that really throws them. YOu can not discipline them the way you do "typical" kids because they don't think like typical kids. I totally don't believe that autistic kids seek attention from strangers. They are extremely shy. They GET attention because of thehir atypical behavior, but they hate when all eyes are on them. </p><p>Is your son getting specific Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) interventions in school and in the community? I don't mean therapy, which usually works poorly with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids because they do not read or relate to others well. I mean social skills training, perhaps a smaller group in school (they have very low sensory tolerance and a big class often distracts them), sensory intervenions, things like that? If not, he is not getting autistim interventions and all Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids could use them. My son is actually very verbal, but he is now almost seventeen and still has quirks and differences. If he had not had interventions it would have been far worse. Many Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids can express themselves so well in writing (often on a keyboard since many have trouble with handwriting). Yet they can't say how they feel which frustrates them and brings on rages. This is way different than ODD.</p><p>Does he have any contact with k ids who are like he is? My son is in Special Olympics and spent many years in a Special Education class where he really did well. He learned quickly and was taught by his aide how to take notes and did a lot of 1-1, which these kids often need. Now he is on his own and making the honor roll. He is still very shy...painfully shy...with people he doesn't know, but feels very comfortable and has friends in his school setting (many are typical kids). When he gets a job it will have to be carefully hand picked because he needs stability, routine, and to see the same people every day. Because of his age we are working with a transition-to-adulthood team next year.</p><p>I think my biggest piece of advice is not to treat him as if he is "bad" or "defiant" but to address his disability and model your parenting to fit his needs. That will make it easier on all of you. Not all Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids function at the same level. Some are more impaired than others. Not being able to talk is a big impairment. That has GOT to uber-frustrate him. It's good he's learning ways to compensate.</p><p>Take care and good luck, whatever you decide to do. by the way, I also live in Wisconsin. My son goes to Nekoosa High School, if you know where that is. Maybe we're in the same area. If so, PM me. I may be able to help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 367479, member: 1550"] I have a spectrum son. They get frustrated very easily and do not transition well, therefore it is necessary to change our expectations that they will ever be able to transition without a lot of gentle warning in advance or do things new ways because that really throws them. YOu can not discipline them the way you do "typical" kids because they don't think like typical kids. I totally don't believe that autistic kids seek attention from strangers. They are extremely shy. They GET attention because of thehir atypical behavior, but they hate when all eyes are on them. Is your son getting specific Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) interventions in school and in the community? I don't mean therapy, which usually works poorly with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids because they do not read or relate to others well. I mean social skills training, perhaps a smaller group in school (they have very low sensory tolerance and a big class often distracts them), sensory intervenions, things like that? If not, he is not getting autistim interventions and all Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids could use them. My son is actually very verbal, but he is now almost seventeen and still has quirks and differences. If he had not had interventions it would have been far worse. Many Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids can express themselves so well in writing (often on a keyboard since many have trouble with handwriting). Yet they can't say how they feel which frustrates them and brings on rages. This is way different than ODD. Does he have any contact with k ids who are like he is? My son is in Special Olympics and spent many years in a Special Education class where he really did well. He learned quickly and was taught by his aide how to take notes and did a lot of 1-1, which these kids often need. Now he is on his own and making the honor roll. He is still very shy...painfully shy...with people he doesn't know, but feels very comfortable and has friends in his school setting (many are typical kids). When he gets a job it will have to be carefully hand picked because he needs stability, routine, and to see the same people every day. Because of his age we are working with a transition-to-adulthood team next year. I think my biggest piece of advice is not to treat him as if he is "bad" or "defiant" but to address his disability and model your parenting to fit his needs. That will make it easier on all of you. Not all Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids function at the same level. Some are more impaired than others. Not being able to talk is a big impairment. That has GOT to uber-frustrate him. It's good he's learning ways to compensate. Take care and good luck, whatever you decide to do. by the way, I also live in Wisconsin. My son goes to Nekoosa High School, if you know where that is. Maybe we're in the same area. If so, PM me. I may be able to help. [/QUOTE]
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