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<blockquote data-quote="WearyWoman" data-source="post: 367582"><p>Midwest Mom - Sounds like your son's school is awesome. What kind of organization is it? As I mentioned, we live in a rural area, and the resources are less here, I believe. Our son's social differences have become more noticeable in relation to his peers as the years have passed. I'm so glad to at least understand that he is on the autism spectrum. It was worse not knowing. It's refreshing to hear your comments on DAN "doctors", as I have always felt the same.</p><p> </p><p>Marguerite - I know you're right on with the fact that autism can predispose to significant rages and tantrums, as the child's point of view is the child's reality. Unfortunately, in our experience, teachers and professionals like to separate difficult child's autistic behaviors from his other behaviors. In other words, they seem to think that some of his behaviors are just the result of bad choices on his part or poor parenting on our part, not unlike other neurotypicals demonstrate at times. To clarify about the "I need a break" card, he is given that card to use only once during a day's therapy, and he had already used it, so the "rule" is that he cannot use it again. I feel inadequate to know what is the right or wrong thing to do. I'm not an expert. That's supposed to be the therapists' role, however, as I mentioned, they are not all that experienced. Yet, the other night, the agency sent a more experienced therapist who difficult child had never met, and she tried to intervene in one of his meltdowns by approaching him, which he hates when he's upset, and it sent him over the edge. He threw things at her, yelled and screamed, and ran away. It went from bad to worse in a hurry. His therapists may not have seen the gamut of autistic behavior, as they're so new. A good friend of ours has a son with autism who is the same age as our difficult child, and he says his son does not have rages or meltdowns - no real discipline issues. At the autism parents' support group, I shared about our difficult child's difficult behaviors, and the other parents looked at me like I was from outer space. Apparently, their children are passive, struggling only with social skills, sensory, and health issues, not rages and out-of-control behaviors. Their advice to me is always the same - the gluten-free, casein-free diet is the answer to everything, as well as supplements, chelation, and some sort of system for removing toxic metals from the body. I have the original Explosive Child book, and I would like to get the one by Riley as well. I understand the basket approach, but in which basket should his therapy directions fall - Basket A, B, or C?</p><p> </p><p>I did read your other post, and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I would be furious if it were me, I'm sure. Sometimes the "professionals" are so unprofessional - that's for sure! I hope things resolve for you in a good way.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks,</p><p> </p><p>Weary Woman</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyWoman, post: 367582"] Midwest Mom - Sounds like your son's school is awesome. What kind of organization is it? As I mentioned, we live in a rural area, and the resources are less here, I believe. Our son's social differences have become more noticeable in relation to his peers as the years have passed. I'm so glad to at least understand that he is on the autism spectrum. It was worse not knowing. It's refreshing to hear your comments on DAN "doctors", as I have always felt the same. Marguerite - I know you're right on with the fact that autism can predispose to significant rages and tantrums, as the child's point of view is the child's reality. Unfortunately, in our experience, teachers and professionals like to separate difficult child's autistic behaviors from his other behaviors. In other words, they seem to think that some of his behaviors are just the result of bad choices on his part or poor parenting on our part, not unlike other neurotypicals demonstrate at times. To clarify about the "I need a break" card, he is given that card to use only once during a day's therapy, and he had already used it, so the "rule" is that he cannot use it again. I feel inadequate to know what is the right or wrong thing to do. I'm not an expert. That's supposed to be the therapists' role, however, as I mentioned, they are not all that experienced. Yet, the other night, the agency sent a more experienced therapist who difficult child had never met, and she tried to intervene in one of his meltdowns by approaching him, which he hates when he's upset, and it sent him over the edge. He threw things at her, yelled and screamed, and ran away. It went from bad to worse in a hurry. His therapists may not have seen the gamut of autistic behavior, as they're so new. A good friend of ours has a son with autism who is the same age as our difficult child, and he says his son does not have rages or meltdowns - no real discipline issues. At the autism parents' support group, I shared about our difficult child's difficult behaviors, and the other parents looked at me like I was from outer space. Apparently, their children are passive, struggling only with social skills, sensory, and health issues, not rages and out-of-control behaviors. Their advice to me is always the same - the gluten-free, casein-free diet is the answer to everything, as well as supplements, chelation, and some sort of system for removing toxic metals from the body. I have the original Explosive Child book, and I would like to get the one by Riley as well. I understand the basket approach, but in which basket should his therapy directions fall - Basket A, B, or C? I did read your other post, and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I would be furious if it were me, I'm sure. Sometimes the "professionals" are so unprofessional - that's for sure! I hope things resolve for you in a good way. Thanks, Weary Woman [/QUOTE]
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