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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 681888" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Sorry you are having to go through this Karen. I have been on and off for five years with my 20 year old son also. Sometimes he seemed to be doing so well but sometimes I think it's me wishing it to be that way so hard that it is how I see it. Our son did have failure to launch even when he was sober which I believe are due to his anxiety and depression so I knew there was still a piece missing. What could I do? How could I help him fix this? What was the next step?</p><p></p><p>With our urging, he signed up for 3 college classes and we found a good psychologist close by and I thought we were on our way! Oh but wait, he was kind of drunk the first day of one class and not sober for the other class. He was doing great in his classes though and loved going to college and found it pretty easy so something good did come out of it. We thought we'd just let him finish (we'd drive him/took car away) because we could no longer get our money back.</p><p></p><p>However things escalated and we found out he was abusing benzos (not the first time). We realized letting him continue to go to class was no longer an option. We needed our home back. We needed our life back. We then had to give him the choice to either go to rehab or leave and fortunately he chose rehab. The people on this forum gave me the strength to do this. We still have a long road to go but I let his father lead the way and took a backseat as hard as it was I know that we made the right decision for our family at the time. How we deal with this is a different journey for each of us and we all hope to get to the rainbow some day and be able to look back on it all and be glad it's in our past! </p><p></p><p>Prayers for continued strength for you and all of us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 681888, member: 15032"] Sorry you are having to go through this Karen. I have been on and off for five years with my 20 year old son also. Sometimes he seemed to be doing so well but sometimes I think it's me wishing it to be that way so hard that it is how I see it. Our son did have failure to launch even when he was sober which I believe are due to his anxiety and depression so I knew there was still a piece missing. What could I do? How could I help him fix this? What was the next step? With our urging, he signed up for 3 college classes and we found a good psychologist close by and I thought we were on our way! Oh but wait, he was kind of drunk the first day of one class and not sober for the other class. He was doing great in his classes though and loved going to college and found it pretty easy so something good did come out of it. We thought we'd just let him finish (we'd drive him/took car away) because we could no longer get our money back. However things escalated and we found out he was abusing benzos (not the first time). We realized letting him continue to go to class was no longer an option. We needed our home back. We needed our life back. We then had to give him the choice to either go to rehab or leave and fortunately he chose rehab. The people on this forum gave me the strength to do this. We still have a long road to go but I let his father lead the way and took a backseat as hard as it was I know that we made the right decision for our family at the time. How we deal with this is a different journey for each of us and we all hope to get to the rainbow some day and be able to look back on it all and be glad it's in our past! Prayers for continued strength for you and all of us. [/QUOTE]
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