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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 546721" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I would definitely not bail him out, and I would definitely press charges ASAP. The thing about the charges is, legally this is not just a crime of theft from you, it's a crime of fraud upon the bank. You'll need to coordinate with them, and they will not likely do anything if you refuse to press charges. You already "gave" him $5,000 - which he stole from you. </p><p></p><p>Intervention? <em>No way!</em> He'd be out of state and beyond your jurisdiction and he'd check himself out and be gone and back again. Or worse yet he does what he did to you to some other unsuspecting person. I can't believe that they aren't charging him with accessory to murder for supplying the car used in a drug deal that ended in a shooting death. Your son is doing way more than smoking pot. </p><p></p><p>Not only would I press charges, I'd get myself a lawyer and protect myself and my property from any lawsuits that might arise from injuries incurred by others due to your son's actions. Someone could realistically make a case - maybe not win it - that your son had "implied permission" from you to do all of the things that he did with your property. I guarantee you, you'd fight that for years, pay attorneys for years, and you would end up settling. Settling the sooner the better is the only way that could turn out well. Make an appointment with an attorney <em>for yourselves </em>first thing Monday morning. <em>Do not </em>hire an attorney for your son <em>or</em> bail him out. Anything you do at this point to support him is going to look <em>very</em> bad for you if someone decides to sue.</p><p></p><p>Quite literally, this is the day in your lives where you and your husband get to decide whether you are going to be "Mr. and Mrs. Lupylisa" or you're giong to be "that criminal's mom and dad". Don't be "that criminal's mom and dad". Get on with your lives. If he can figure a way out of this, <em>good for him!</em> I guarantee you that <em>you</em> can't figure a way to get him out of this, and he wouldn't let you even if you could.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 546721, member: 99"] I would definitely not bail him out, and I would definitely press charges ASAP. The thing about the charges is, legally this is not just a crime of theft from you, it's a crime of fraud upon the bank. You'll need to coordinate with them, and they will not likely do anything if you refuse to press charges. You already "gave" him $5,000 - which he stole from you. Intervention? [I]No way![/I] He'd be out of state and beyond your jurisdiction and he'd check himself out and be gone and back again. Or worse yet he does what he did to you to some other unsuspecting person. I can't believe that they aren't charging him with accessory to murder for supplying the car used in a drug deal that ended in a shooting death. Your son is doing way more than smoking pot. Not only would I press charges, I'd get myself a lawyer and protect myself and my property from any lawsuits that might arise from injuries incurred by others due to your son's actions. Someone could realistically make a case - maybe not win it - that your son had "implied permission" from you to do all of the things that he did with your property. I guarantee you, you'd fight that for years, pay attorneys for years, and you would end up settling. Settling the sooner the better is the only way that could turn out well. Make an appointment with an attorney [I]for yourselves [/I]first thing Monday morning. [I]Do not [/I]hire an attorney for your son [I]or[/I] bail him out. Anything you do at this point to support him is going to look [I]very[/I] bad for you if someone decides to sue. Quite literally, this is the day in your lives where you and your husband get to decide whether you are going to be "Mr. and Mrs. Lupylisa" or you're giong to be "that criminal's mom and dad". Don't be "that criminal's mom and dad". Get on with your lives. If he can figure a way out of this, [I]good for him![/I] I guarantee you that [I]you[/I] can't figure a way to get him out of this, and he wouldn't let you even if you could. [/QUOTE]
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