Back home again in Indiana

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by mstang67chic, Feb 27, 2010.

  1. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    And husband and I are both soooooooooooo glad to be home. It was a loooong, rough, stressful week and even without the grief part, I think we both (as well as all of my inlaws in our little car pool) had simply had enough of each other.

    Actually, it's also nice to be back in know....where I have internet and can actually get a signal on my cell phone. LOL I literally had to drive a half hour to get a signal on my phone. Apparently there aren't any cell towers up the holler. (Yes Star...I got THAT text! LOL)

    We got there Wednesday afternoon, visited for a bit and then changed clothes to go to the church where all of the services were held. Just a small little church but it sat up on this very steep hill. We drove my car up there once and after that, either walked up or caught a ride as me, husband, his brother and his wife in my car going up that hill.....just a tad too much weight. Things were done a bit different down there as for the viewing. Here, I'm used to the viewing being basically a greeting line with the family and mingling with others. There, we had a bit of mingling but then there were services each evening of the viewings. Plus, the services/sermons are a bit more.....enthusiastic than I'm used to. These are some very vocal Southern Baptists with a bit of preaching and a bit of music. Speaking of the music, I wish it had been different circumstances....I would have loved to have gotten recordings of some of the mountain spirituals they sang. The harmony just with two people was amazing. I have a list of some of the titles. I'll see if I can find any of them online somewhere.

    Anyhoo....we had viewing Wednesday and Thursday evenings with the actual funeral on Friday. husband held up ok on Wednesday and Thursday. He had his moments but did better than I expected. Friday however.....that was a rough one. For the most part he kept it together through the service until the end. Then he and his sibs pretty much lost it and clung to each other in a group hug/breakdown. The drive to the cemetary was close to an hour but fortunately the grave service was brief. It was a very cold, windy day and the cemetary is on a steep hill.

    Funeral aspects aside though, we had a good time. The entire family was there and a lot of visiting was accomplished. Visiting, stories, laughing and a LOT of cheating at cards was had by all! LOL And the was like Christmas and Thanksgiving all week. I'm still stuffed. I got some great pictures of husband's family and some of his oldest uncle (in his 70's) in hats belonging to some of the teens. They even showed him how to "throw gang signs" for the was hysterical.

    husband is doing...*shrugs*...ok. He has his moments and I'm sure will for a while. He gets mad at himself sometimes though because he thinks he should be done with the crying and I have to remind him that he really is human. I think we're going to go to mother in law's apartment tomorrow and start to clean it out. It honestly could be done in a day but I don't know if everyone can make it and husband wants them all there. If they can't....I'll at least go over and finish up the cleaning without packing anything. And of course we have thank you notes to write, addresses to track down, etc. so I'm sure we'll be busy for a bit. husband has the official end of things to handle but hopefully that won't be too much of a pain for him. He's stressed out enough as it is and doesn't need any more hassles.

    But yes...we're home. Tired, exhausted, stressed, grumpy and down to our last nerve but we're home.
  2. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    I'm glad you had a safe trip. I'm sure it will be a big adjustment and hard for husband for a while, but the way it played out is about as much as one could hope for and the memories of time with the rest of his family will probably mean more to him as this initial pain starts to subside. It sounds like you were a real trooper through this- enjoy some time at your own home now!
  3. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Glad your home safe. It might not be a bad idea to take a day or two to rest up before heading to the apartment.

    Sounds like the service was very nice.

  4. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    The service sounds very nice. Glad husband got to spend some pleasant time with his family, and happy to hear you're safely home. Sending hugs.
  5. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Glad you are back home safe. Sounds like the family held up well all things considered.

    Did you throw corn for the chickens or the pigs? LOL.
  6. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    *Janet.....I was SO bummed!!! The family has left and that house is GONE! At one point it was the house and an old trailer and although I'm not sure what happened to the seems that the mom came over one night and set the trailer on fire. husband's cousin was telling me about it as her room faced that side of the road and she watched it happen.

    *I was telling Janet about a particular set of neighbors of one of husband's uncles. They were........interesting to say the least.
  7. ML

    ML Guest

    Glad to have you back and my prayers are with you and husband. I would expect tears for a while. I always find the going back to routine without that loved one to be the hardest of all. Hugs, ML
  8. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Glad you made it home safely...... unfortunately the grief doesn't end with the funeral....... thinking of you and husband.....