Woke up and tried to help gpa for breakfast.. "he refused to eat and told me go home go to bed" Then I will get put down by the neighborhood watch again because they will be upset I didnt feed him even if he "supposedly" ( yes supposedly refused because they still say force him to eat or I just really didnt offer or my food sucks anyway) Home, son woke up great mood, we laughed cooked that was short lived, fought with sister, then he threw tantrum because my dad couldnt handle or afford to take him to the store and my dad left without him. He finally calmed down and we played a game. The kids dogs came in and werent in 30 seconds and peed all over the tile. Guess who had to clean it..again? ME!!!!! I know you all said they are kids when you get a pet kids get bored and quit caring for it. No excuses when they can clean the pee and poo, walk and play with other animals at the shelter but not their own? I dont force them to volunteer they chose too and basically quit when I said they need to clean their dogs first! Of course I knew id be helping but they cant even do half the work? They can feed strange dogs and cats that come to the house but not their own!!!!!! So I had to clean the dog pee and im sorry I do this daily, add sons encropresis( pooping in pants weekly, daily usually that I have to clean and smells like a skunk or worse) Dogs were potty trained mostly but kids again cant let them out, and had to spray yard so dogs dont like going in kennel outside but come in to do it!!! So yes I raised my vioce and told the kids those dogs arent coming back in the house at all, they have shelter outside and thats that. I dont believe in that I dont but at this point, keeping the house clean is first priority and cant do that when we cant walk in something. Worse comes to worse we get rid of the animals. I dont believe in that either tho. Daughter got mad and said a few choice things as did son and I said " doors open to the front, shall I call someone for you?" Ya It was wrong but Im so tired of being so mean because I want my kids to shower, study, eat healthy, have some fun and go out with friends, lesson time on the computer, and have them help around a little.And they got mad about that and mad I was mad about this. My kids come first but they are not babies and can be really smart kids, I know for a fact they can handle ( esp daughter) what is asked of them, I have seen them do this before! My kids are not so disabled, they are very capable of helping around the house. They used a carpet cleaner,( they thought it looked fun and made designs in the carpet) both kids have painted the walls, they both have mopped, they both have changed light bulbs and used a microwave, they both have watered and raked a lawn, done laundry,cleaned their toys, the cars outside( their excuse to get wet), cleaned windows although I dont like them using Windex its too harsh for the kids to breath- and me- so they use other stuff last time) etc!!! Honestly lets see: Once a week each: Does a load of dishes : Help clean up their own room when needed( at the least ) : Vacuum ( their dogs fur spreads- its only fair) : Help set the table OR cook : If they made a mess outside with toys etc clean them up Daily : H.Work : Bath(sensory issues at least reg bath 3 times week,sponge baths in between)? : Empty their plates and bring to kitch OR just bring to kitchen Ill take that! : To get fresh air, respect ( attempting respect) , eat healthy This is the basic things, I have seen kids who are really having trouble both mentally and physically( I know there's worse kids out there then mine and those strong ones are giving it all they got!!!) but still can do these things! Oh dont forget go to bed at certain time hahah and pills. Sister: her life... she needs to get on her feet having issues.... I probably could be on here for a couple more hrs complaining!!!!!!! I wont!!!!!! Ugghhh It just scares me, how will my kids make it on their own in the future? I dont even give them big chores like the other kids they know, the other kids think Im such a cool mom because they have more to do then mine some are younger!!!! I want my kids to be kids and not worry about the adult stuff for a long time, but at the same time a little responsibility doesn't hurt( I had so much more to do then them, besides my pets and room, I had most of the house( not laundry unless I chose to and I didnt really!) Thanks for letting me vent and Im in a stressed mood so Im hungry!!!!!!!! Lol Guess its time to make the apple pie and brownies! Along with chicken, peas and mashed potatoes n gravy for dinner! An ice cream shake would be great along with a chile reno!!!!!!