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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 326793" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>In our state it is called PINS rather than CHINS. My dtr was on it--didn't keep her from behaving badly but it documented what she was doing. She had a probation officer and she could see that we were doing everything we could as parents. Everytime she was out without permission we called the police and reported her as a missing person. The police didn't go to great lengths to find her but this was all documentation that we as parents were doing our best with an incorrigible minor.</p><p></p><p>Eventually, when she was 17 (after being in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for 8 1/2 months and short-term rehab for 28 days) she did get picked up and court ordered for treatment at dual diagnosis facility. Of course, we still had to pay for it, but she was safely off the streets for several months and also got her GED while there. </p><p></p><p>As Linda says, document, document, document. I gave up even trying to enforce any rules. We took everything away from her and she just didn't care. She was stubborn enough to win at that power struggle. </p><p></p><p>We simply told her that we were reporting her every time she was gone without permission and that it would eventually catch up with her. We told her society would apply natural consequences, this wasn't her parents trying to run her life, we were trying to keep her safe. Stayed neutral and out of fights, just quietly went about our documenting and as I said it caught up to her eventually.</p><p></p><p>Best of luck</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 326793, member: 3450"] In our state it is called PINS rather than CHINS. My dtr was on it--didn't keep her from behaving badly but it documented what she was doing. She had a probation officer and she could see that we were doing everything we could as parents. Everytime she was out without permission we called the police and reported her as a missing person. The police didn't go to great lengths to find her but this was all documentation that we as parents were doing our best with an incorrigible minor. Eventually, when she was 17 (after being in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for 8 1/2 months and short-term rehab for 28 days) she did get picked up and court ordered for treatment at dual diagnosis facility. Of course, we still had to pay for it, but she was safely off the streets for several months and also got her GED while there. As Linda says, document, document, document. I gave up even trying to enforce any rules. We took everything away from her and she just didn't care. She was stubborn enough to win at that power struggle. We simply told her that we were reporting her every time she was gone without permission and that it would eventually catch up with her. We told her society would apply natural consequences, this wasn't her parents trying to run her life, we were trying to keep her safe. Stayed neutral and out of fights, just quietly went about our documenting and as I said it caught up to her eventually. Best of luck Jane [/QUOTE]
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