Last night our therapist came by, Dr. B, to see Drew and to speak to him and go over the goals that he wanted Drew, and us, to work toward and talk about anything that may have gone on in the week he did not see him. It started out okay, but as he read and we commented, you could literally watch Drew shut down and go into himself. Finally, when we got to his school and goals to work toward, i.e homework, I explained to Dr. B what the school had said to me that day, that he had literally shut down in class, sat there at his desk, the teachers were all worried, he is now failing 5 of his 6 classes, the 6th class he has a C- in, and if he doesn't start trying he is going to loose all his after school clubs as well. Some of the teachers have wondered if maybe he is doing drugs due to the sudden and severity of how he is with them. Dr. B talked to Drew, we are all always calm, but he would not answer, no shaking his head or looking up at him, so he was asked a question and told we would like to hear his side of it. We all waited 10 minutes for a sign, something, but we got nothing. Dr. B got firm with him and told him that we have been trying now for weeks to help him, each time he refuses to let us know what he was thinking, he wants a voice yet he refuses to meet us half way or tell us what is going on and his attitude and and actions were unacceptable, rude, and were not going to be tolerated. He went on to explain to difficult child that he had a roof over his head, food to eat, a warm and safe place to live, clothes to wear, and parents who loved him, who were trying and all of this comes at a price, as we all work to get this, and did he expect all of that to be handed over and he do nothing but sit there? So, our plan of action is to get him into someone or somewhere to get a psychiatric evaluation done immediately, we need answers now, not in 5 or 8 weeks, and Dr. B is going to work on that aspect of care. I finally broke down and had to get up from the table then told Dr. B that if it took hospitalizing him for 60 days or putting him in a group home, we would be willing to do that, as I personally just could not take this anymore, I was tired and even his dad, was done putting up with these games and this attitude from him. If he won't talk or let us know what we needed to do to fix whatever is wrong, then we take it up a notch. Dr. B got to see difficult child get very snarky and rude to his dad, he asked if this is how their relationship was, I said pretty much. Something is going on with the difficult child and some animosity and anger, so when my husband went downstairs, as he was so disgusted he said he wanted to knock difficult child off the chair, Dr. B and I spoke about how I was baffled at this constant anger toward his dad. We both turned to ask difficult child if he could elaborate on his feelings toward his dad and we got a snotty if I tell you you will tell dad so no I won't. Both of us tried to explain no we won't and he rolled his eyes, barked out a bit of laughter and said yea right. I left at that point, so if Dr. B got out of him what his problem is with his dad, I don't know. But he will be back on Monday and we go from there. He has GOT to open up or I am going to be forced to ask he be placed somewhere. I am really tired of this attitude he is portraying, I won't speak but I won't meet you half way and I want all these things but I won't compromise either. You can't make me speak, I won't tell you and if he wants to fail in high school, well, he can go do it somewhere else. Maybe I am wrong to feel this way at this moment, but it wears on me badly. Were not bad parents, we don't beat him, he has never been neglected, we go to bat for him without question, we have backed him up over and over again, tried to be supportive in all he does, bend over backwards if he shows an interest in things, and we get his **** in return.