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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 586654" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>What a nightmare - I am so sorry that you have to endure this. Deep breath - serenity prayer - detach - detach - detach. This story reminds me of one of our big successes at my parent support group - their son had been through a couple of rehabs - been arrested a few times - spent time in jail etc - finally he stole a lot of jewelry from his mom and they caught him - they had him arrested and made a deal with him - his choices were going back to jail or they drop the charges and send him to Florida for rehab and sober living and he was not to contact them - they were done - he took the deal and went to Florida. They didn't hear from him for a year and when they did - he was the son they had once known. They still were careful how much to "let him in" and over time they began to trust. Now three years later - he came to our support group to tell his story and thank his mom for forcing the issue- he is still sober and thankful to his family for drawing the line - he says he wouldn't have gotten sober had they not - - he had no where to go and nothing of his own - he suffered through but now he is huge in AA and sponsors many struggling young people. In our group the common thread of the successes is that line drawn by the parents and the difficult child left with no choice bit to dig themselves out. Mine is 17 so that line becomes blurred - yours is 19 you have more power. Food for thought.......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 586654, member: 12490"] What a nightmare - I am so sorry that you have to endure this. Deep breath - serenity prayer - detach - detach - detach. This story reminds me of one of our big successes at my parent support group - their son had been through a couple of rehabs - been arrested a few times - spent time in jail etc - finally he stole a lot of jewelry from his mom and they caught him - they had him arrested and made a deal with him - his choices were going back to jail or they drop the charges and send him to Florida for rehab and sober living and he was not to contact them - they were done - he took the deal and went to Florida. They didn't hear from him for a year and when they did - he was the son they had once known. They still were careful how much to "let him in" and over time they began to trust. Now three years later - he came to our support group to tell his story and thank his mom for forcing the issue- he is still sober and thankful to his family for drawing the line - he says he wouldn't have gotten sober had they not - - he had no where to go and nothing of his own - he suffered through but now he is huge in AA and sponsors many struggling young people. In our group the common thread of the successes is that line drawn by the parents and the difficult child left with no choice bit to dig themselves out. Mine is 17 so that line becomes blurred - yours is 19 you have more power. Food for thought....... [/QUOTE]
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