Thanks everyone. I asked them if they were happy because with my daughter not really showing emotion and my son and his violence ( failing grades) I wanted to make sure if their was something I can change for them if they weren't happy or if something was bothering them. I do my best for them I believe I am and I just felt as if it was me as I have been told. But they said they were happy with me and I left it alone. They are biologically mine. I am trying to rule out or factor in what if any problems Im causing but it seems as if you all are right that my daughter does have something wrong as well as my son. My grandfather/ the kids father always says its my fault because all the kids they know dont act like mine
The father also adds its all my fault because my mom was schizophrenic and he says his family was fine ( all men in his family are extremely violent/ womanizers/ and most were/are drunks) His other kids are not like mine so is why I tend to agree with him and my grandpa. But of course my grandpa will change his tune at times and say my sons not rite.
Wiped Out- Glad you had a better Christmas this year!
MidwestMom- Thanks and I agree, his appointment is next week and he is suppose to start a new pill for his violence ( yes still neurologist) and this time the Dr is suppose to have therapists for us as well as someone who can do the full evaluation!
helpangel- I have been going to his pediatrician for years and they finally sent me to a family counselor who at first said anxiety/odd need to see further by the third visit my son "played nice and had good coordination skills " so he said the problem was me. All the years the doctors said he was all boy, be firm, hold him down like this in a rage, etc. Well, finally one of his doctors listened again and I brought in that I was on a forum for years, took multiple online quizzes, wrote his daily tantrums/ set offs etc and even recorded it ( no one wanted to see it until this dr) failing grades, letter from teacher on his behavior and he listed him as ODD/ADHD and possible Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and sent us to a neurologist who diagnosed him with ADHD/ Sleeping issue because my son woke up tired, slept like a "clock" turning etc. My son had an EEG done so far and an hoping for that full evaluation. I agree, theres something more than just his listed issies, the EEG showed the aggression part, but I will double check how that showed and how its said correctly. As far as your daughter and son, your right, the medications can effect them differently and I hope they are doing better today
I need to check the threads here...
SuZir- I know, its so hard to accept it I guess. I am pushing believe me, I am going to see who he can find because everyone I have called said the dont do neuropsychologist exams, but someone here or near by has too, it exists!!!
bunny- hugs to you. I am sorry you all have had these Christmases and other days like this. I wish none of us or our kids had issues and everyone was happy and healthy in every way. After he opened his presents he was still moody off and on... happy than moody. The neighbors kid came over and played a while and he got a little attitude with her but even when she left has his happy and mad issues. Its amazing how one minute hes so lovable and we can say almost anything and the next minute or a short later he is angry either for a reason or no reason and cant say anything. Even now that hes sick, ( cold) he still happy one minute and a little bit later angry again ( hes asleep now).