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<blockquote data-quote="Lioness" data-source="post: 658670" data-attributes="member: 18827"><p>Oh Scent of Cedar I really was in that "happy Grandmother place". She dies hold this power over me and will use it, you are so right maybe she's jealous? Maybe she just wanted to show me who's boss. The thing I can't reconcile is the love I had when my own children were little hasnt diminished over the years I love them still. So I can never stop loving my children no matter how cruel she becomes. My little grand daughter is so delightful and I know my daughter is very hard to live with and I don't doubt that the baby who is only 2 sees and hears her mum. My grandmother was my saviour and brought me up till I was 6 years old and my mum was very physically & psychologically abusive. There was a time between ages 6-7 that my mum wouldn't let my grandmother have contact with us for a whole year! And we lived in the same house. I would pass my grandmother on the stairs and our eyes would meet yet we knew we weren't allowed to talk to each other! I remember that so clearly. Our bond remained strong and she was so gentle and kind unlike my mum who was hard and vicious! I want to be that soft place for my granddaughter she needs it. My mum was also abused by her father an alcoholic wife and child beater. My own mum hated her mum for not saving them from him. But that was a different time women those days didn't have any choice especially on a little Greek Island. My own parents divorced, I divorced and I don't want history to repeat itself. I want my daughter and son in law to stay together. My son in law is a good person who I know struggles with my daughter and wants to save her. He tries so hard and loves her so much that I pray they will stay together for the Babies sake. I read and re read all that everyone had to say and you are all so wise that I need to digest all your points. I know I don't deserve what she's doing to me. I'm not a bad person, I'm flawed like everyone. All I've done is try so hard to hold it all together all I wanted was to create a happy family and be the best mum I could be. I never hit my kids but yes I did shout and scold. If I'm guilty of anything it's loving too much. Love to you all for all your kindness. And yes my daughter is a nasty piece of work. I know that. It's so sad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lioness, post: 658670, member: 18827"] Oh Scent of Cedar I really was in that "happy Grandmother place". She dies hold this power over me and will use it, you are so right maybe she's jealous? Maybe she just wanted to show me who's boss. The thing I can't reconcile is the love I had when my own children were little hasnt diminished over the years I love them still. So I can never stop loving my children no matter how cruel she becomes. My little grand daughter is so delightful and I know my daughter is very hard to live with and I don't doubt that the baby who is only 2 sees and hears her mum. My grandmother was my saviour and brought me up till I was 6 years old and my mum was very physically & psychologically abusive. There was a time between ages 6-7 that my mum wouldn't let my grandmother have contact with us for a whole year! And we lived in the same house. I would pass my grandmother on the stairs and our eyes would meet yet we knew we weren't allowed to talk to each other! I remember that so clearly. Our bond remained strong and she was so gentle and kind unlike my mum who was hard and vicious! I want to be that soft place for my granddaughter she needs it. My mum was also abused by her father an alcoholic wife and child beater. My own mum hated her mum for not saving them from him. But that was a different time women those days didn't have any choice especially on a little Greek Island. My own parents divorced, I divorced and I don't want history to repeat itself. I want my daughter and son in law to stay together. My son in law is a good person who I know struggles with my daughter and wants to save her. He tries so hard and loves her so much that I pray they will stay together for the Babies sake. I read and re read all that everyone had to say and you are all so wise that I need to digest all your points. I know I don't deserve what she's doing to me. I'm not a bad person, I'm flawed like everyone. All I've done is try so hard to hold it all together all I wanted was to create a happy family and be the best mum I could be. I never hit my kids but yes I did shout and scold. If I'm guilty of anything it's loving too much. Love to you all for all your kindness. And yes my daughter is a nasty piece of work. I know that. It's so sad. [/QUOTE]
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