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BDP daughter wants to her & I to go family therapy
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<blockquote data-quote="tishthedish" data-source="post: 658681" data-attributes="member: 17103"><p>Hi Billy,</p><p>I have 2 children that suggested (implored me) to attend therapy with them. </p><p></p><p>I have to agree with Cedar. I had a therapist that said in no uncertain terms that they were still trying to manipulate me and that the opportunity for a "therapeutic" approach to their problems was not appropriate given their age. Your daughter is a grown woman. If she needs to see a counselor in order to deal with the relationship then she can go. It doesn't sound to me as if you are the problem. What does she hope to accomplish with this therapy? If she's blaming you for a divorce that happened so far in the past, and you were the custodial parent...that's her problem. You did your best. </p><p></p><p>It didn't occur to me to say no to my sons. Anything having to do with their mental/medical health gave them carte blanche with me. I was glad my therapist saw it for what is was, a trap. </p><p></p><p>Grandparenting is s challenge with a difficult child. Do the best you can and don't let yourself fret about it. The more she sees that she can torment you with this, the more she'll play it to her advantage. </p><p></p><p>As for knowing she's so close location wise, all I can say is that she's inconsiderate and it sounds like that is the way the die has been cast. Don't put yourself through the ringer over it. She would be inconsiderate if she were 100 miles away and she's inconsiderate when she's 5 minutes away. </p><p></p><p>Good for you going out with your girlfriends. There is good life left to be had apart from our kids and grandkids. Maybe they'll come around, but until then, you can pray for that and treat yourself with the kindness and respect you deserve. Hugs to you. You are not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tishthedish, post: 658681, member: 17103"] Hi Billy, I have 2 children that suggested (implored me) to attend therapy with them. I have to agree with Cedar. I had a therapist that said in no uncertain terms that they were still trying to manipulate me and that the opportunity for a "therapeutic" approach to their problems was not appropriate given their age. Your daughter is a grown woman. If she needs to see a counselor in order to deal with the relationship then she can go. It doesn't sound to me as if you are the problem. What does she hope to accomplish with this therapy? If she's blaming you for a divorce that happened so far in the past, and you were the custodial parent...that's her problem. You did your best. It didn't occur to me to say no to my sons. Anything having to do with their mental/medical health gave them carte blanche with me. I was glad my therapist saw it for what is was, a trap. Grandparenting is s challenge with a difficult child. Do the best you can and don't let yourself fret about it. The more she sees that she can torment you with this, the more she'll play it to her advantage. As for knowing she's so close location wise, all I can say is that she's inconsiderate and it sounds like that is the way the die has been cast. Don't put yourself through the ringer over it. She would be inconsiderate if she were 100 miles away and she's inconsiderate when she's 5 minutes away. Good for you going out with your girlfriends. There is good life left to be had apart from our kids and grandkids. Maybe they'll come around, but until then, you can pray for that and treat yourself with the kindness and respect you deserve. Hugs to you. You are not alone. [/QUOTE]
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