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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 734097" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Shelwith, welcome. I am so sorry you are struggling with your son's heroin addiction. To make sure you receive the most responses, you might consider posting the same thread on the substance abuse forum where those members are well versed in addiction and substance abuse.</p><p></p><p>You and your parents may find some solace and benefit from the book Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie, it is an excellent resource book. If you believe your son may have mental illness underneath the addiction, you might contact NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they have wonderful resources for parents .......and information, guidance, support and general help. </p><p></p><p>You might find benefit from the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. Your parents may find the information helpful as well. Many of our members attend 12 step meetings, in particular Families anonymous, Al Anon and Narc Anon. If you do attend and that group doesn't work for you, try another, they are all a bit different, keep looking until you find the right one for you. </p><p></p><p>You can call 211 which is a nationwide service offering support services in your county. You might also contact Delancey Street which has chapters in certain cities and they provide many services for substance abusers and the homeless. Here is a link: <a href="http://www.delanceystreetfoundation.org/wwa.php" target="_blank">Delancey Street Foundation - About Us - Who We Are</a></p><p></p><p>You can look up local shelters and food banks as well.</p><p></p><p>The best advice I can offer you is to take care of yourselves. It's unfortunate that your mother continues to enable your son and then drags you back into the hell of addiction. What most of us learn here is that is it US who do all of the changing since addicts rarely shift gears on their own......to that end I would suggest you do everything you can to keep yourselves well supported..... continue with therapy ...... Attend 12 step groups for the support if that feels right to you.......continue posting here.......learn how to set strict boundaries including with your parents so that they stop dragging you back in. This is not easy, we have to learn how to detach from our adult kids poor choices and unsafe lifestyles.....the most difficult thing most of us have ever done.</p><p></p><p>Read some of the threads on the Substance Abuse forum where you will likely find more options for rehabs.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us. You're not alone. Hang in there.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 734097, member: 13542"] Shelwith, welcome. I am so sorry you are struggling with your son's heroin addiction. To make sure you receive the most responses, you might consider posting the same thread on the substance abuse forum where those members are well versed in addiction and substance abuse. You and your parents may find some solace and benefit from the book Codependent no more by Melodie Beattie, it is an excellent resource book. If you believe your son may have mental illness underneath the addiction, you might contact NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they have wonderful resources for parents .......and information, guidance, support and general help. You might find benefit from the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. Your parents may find the information helpful as well. Many of our members attend 12 step meetings, in particular Families anonymous, Al Anon and Narc Anon. If you do attend and that group doesn't work for you, try another, they are all a bit different, keep looking until you find the right one for you. You can call 211 which is a nationwide service offering support services in your county. You might also contact Delancey Street which has chapters in certain cities and they provide many services for substance abusers and the homeless. Here is a link: [URL="http://www.delanceystreetfoundation.org/wwa.php"]Delancey Street Foundation - About Us - Who We Are[/URL] You can look up local shelters and food banks as well. The best advice I can offer you is to take care of yourselves. It's unfortunate that your mother continues to enable your son and then drags you back into the hell of addiction. What most of us learn here is that is it US who do all of the changing since addicts rarely shift gears on their own......to that end I would suggest you do everything you can to keep yourselves well supported..... continue with therapy ...... Attend 12 step groups for the support if that feels right to you.......continue posting here.......learn how to set strict boundaries including with your parents so that they stop dragging you back in. This is not easy, we have to learn how to detach from our adult kids poor choices and unsafe lifestyles.....the most difficult thing most of us have ever done. Read some of the threads on the Substance Abuse forum where you will likely find more options for rehabs. I'm glad you found us. You're not alone. Hang in there..... [/QUOTE]
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