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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 602057" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>The first priority with this kid should be getting him a proper evaluation. And make sure he is alo safe in his father's home. I'm not sure if I understood correctly but I think you are saying his father may use excessive force with him. That is hurtful for him even if it seems to work right now.</p><p></p><p>How is he outside of home? Does he have problems at school, hobbies and with friends? What has his mother (and you) tried with him? What kind of discipline strategies etc. Have you attend any parenting classes or received parenting therapy? </p><p></p><p>Thing I find little disturbing in your messages is that you seem to respond to him in some way from same level he is. You kind of expect him to operate in equal level with you in some ways. Not touching your toys (and yes, I do understand adults have toys that are too precious for kids to play with at least alone) or responding his bad behaviour by mocking him. As I said, bit like teen aged big brother would react. That simply doesn't work. And I happen to think that in blended families, even though the biological parent continues to have a main responsibility and be the main disciplinarian, both adults have to be on the same page and have parental, authority role to all kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 602057, member: 14557"] The first priority with this kid should be getting him a proper evaluation. And make sure he is alo safe in his father's home. I'm not sure if I understood correctly but I think you are saying his father may use excessive force with him. That is hurtful for him even if it seems to work right now. How is he outside of home? Does he have problems at school, hobbies and with friends? What has his mother (and you) tried with him? What kind of discipline strategies etc. Have you attend any parenting classes or received parenting therapy? Thing I find little disturbing in your messages is that you seem to respond to him in some way from same level he is. You kind of expect him to operate in equal level with you in some ways. Not touching your toys (and yes, I do understand adults have toys that are too precious for kids to play with at least alone) or responding his bad behaviour by mocking him. As I said, bit like teen aged big brother would react. That simply doesn't work. And I happen to think that in blended families, even though the biological parent continues to have a main responsibility and be the main disciplinarian, both adults have to be on the same page and have parental, authority role to all kids. [/QUOTE]
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