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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 741251" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Oh, I dont think it is a given if we are tough. But in this young woman's case nothing else has worked. I believe she probably has some disabilities that hold her back and she covers this up by making excuses instead of finding out why she is so afraid to leave the house and to work on it. If nothing changes this could be her forever life. </p><p></p><p>But she deeply cares about getting a laptop. You still may have some leverage when a child is only 19 and desperately wants what you can offer. This young woman is not a criminal. She has unexplained or wrongly diagnosed issues and refusal to get help. Dad has the money for something she wants. Why give it to her if she wont try? Should we try harder than them?</p><p></p><p>In many cases nothing we do will work. But just like we wish for them, we can try. We never should withhold love but we can put condituons on what we will do for them. If may work. Or not. But continuing to do everything for this young woman will encourage her to refuse treatment. </p><p></p><p>For her this is a critical time. in my opinion taking a gamble is a good idea. Nothing is lost by changing things up.</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 741251, member: 1550"] Oh, I dont think it is a given if we are tough. But in this young woman's case nothing else has worked. I believe she probably has some disabilities that hold her back and she covers this up by making excuses instead of finding out why she is so afraid to leave the house and to work on it. If nothing changes this could be her forever life. But she deeply cares about getting a laptop. You still may have some leverage when a child is only 19 and desperately wants what you can offer. This young woman is not a criminal. She has unexplained or wrongly diagnosed issues and refusal to get help. Dad has the money for something she wants. Why give it to her if she wont try? Should we try harder than them? In many cases nothing we do will work. But just like we wish for them, we can try. We never should withhold love but we can put condituons on what we will do for them. If may work. Or not. But continuing to do everything for this young woman will encourage her to refuse treatment. For her this is a critical time. in my opinion taking a gamble is a good idea. Nothing is lost by changing things up. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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